Mother’s Day
Does anyone else get completely baffled when BM has no interest in having their child for Mother’s Day?
For the first few years of my relationship with my partner his sons mum would never ask to have him or just bullshit her way out of having him earlier than the planned drop off which used to be 4pm on the Sunday even though my partner said he’s happy to drop him off the Saturday night so she could have him the full day.
It wasn’t till she had a new boyfriend and we was going through court that she asked for him and it’s technically our weekend but the order states that he goes to hers (no problem) yet she’s not messaged to arrange anything which frustrates me because I feel like I can’t enjoy my Mother’s Day with my son cause we are waiting round to pick him up the Sunday plus my step son often says she hasn’t bothered with him throughout the day
I just know personally if it was the other way round I’d be messaging and sorting it out as soon as it’s close to the day
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I personally have no interest in mothers day but that's due to my own difficult history from childhood. I make the effort for MIL etc but for myself, I have found other ways of celebrating which is almost daily. For myself, I celebrate my child's achievements, drawn pictures (I keep everything in folders etc) as the innocent ones that hold their drawn family pictures/crafts which isn't prompted by an adult is more precious than the 1 day per year which is prompted by an adult. Of course my views may change as kiddies get much older, but for now,I prefer it this way.
We give SS mother options on whether she wants him earlier or not (she works so it's difficult at times for her to get time off) but if it's later in the day, my SS often does something homemade for her to bring home which she appreciates. I do prompt this though. Could be baking or some type of craft etc we have him choose.
BTW I'm the same with my birthdays- my birthday is banned! But I make huge efforts to celebrate everyone else's.
interesting to hear from another POV and understable but she is the sort of person to play doting mum when it comes to being round other people if that make sense? Like she’d happily show people how great she is but then she’s really not from past behaviour
Ah yes I've personally seen similar myself. Currently, we have situation with SS mother (very sensitive situation which social services are investigating due to school raising concerns) and we've finally been told what truly happens when SS is at home. It's very clear mother is putting on a "show" when others are around but when inside their home, it's very much the opposite. Currently investigation is still ongoing, with more information each week which is unsettling.
Yes, I'd see why it's baffling to you about ur step child's mother for mothers day. I'd be baffled too!
My SS mum never wanted him on Mother’s Day if it was our weekend she goes out drinking with her friends on a Sunday and mothers day is no different (she has 3 kids)
Although she’s cut contact since before I gave birth to our little one so dunno about this year
it drives me insane because she acts like a top notch mum but she can’t even be bothered to pay for trips on her weeks or take him to activities etc or his hygiene and also acts like top notch step mum to her step daughter but if you heard what she openly says about her 😔
it’s just wrong unless like Stacy mentioned they don’t celebrate it but to just rather go drinking with her friends, if I said to my friend to go drinking Sunday she’d be so upset with me
My eldest is 6 and my youngest is 10 months old there’s nowhere I’d rather be than with them. Especially on Mother’s Day xx
This year will be harder for my partner as his mum passed away last year
exactly!
I’m so sorry for his loss xx
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