Partner question

I don’t have any advice but want to say you’re not alone in this, as I feel the same. My husband is away for work for a month and it’s incredibly lonely during this first trimester. He’s off doing things for him and it feels like I’m out of sight, out of mind. The support isn’t there and I’m also doubting how I’ll feel supported throughout the rest of the pregnancy and after birth. 😢 it feels like he doesn’t understand and I just have to do this completely on my own, whether that is true or not. I feel like I can only rely on myself for support and that is not how I need it to be.

Anyway, hugs to you and I hope things get better and you are able to get through to him.

I haven't experienced this yet, because I am in my third trimester with my first child, but I have heard that Dads really connect and get involved after the child is born, rather than while you are pregnant, like mamas do. In the meanwhile, it sounds like couples counseling would be a really good idea. If you are already verbalizing to him what you need and he is being more and more distant, a mediator might be able to say things in a way that he's better able to hear.

Echoing that you’re not alone. I woke up extra emotional today and laid into my partner how sad it made me that he wasn’t more involved in this pregnancy and how worried I am about what it’ll be like when baby is here. He told me he thinks about it constantly, and I think he doesn’t realize that he’s not actually talking to me, taking action, showing me support, etc. Keep sharing your feelings and letting him know what you need.

That said I’ve also heard it’s really hard for men until they have physical interaction with the baby once it’s born.

My husband and I both work 8h + per day (including SoFL traffic ) so at the beginning of living together I made the rule that when we get home our phones should be on silent so we can spend some quality time together without being disturb. So When my husband uses his phone a lot while watching a movie I just stop the movie and play something only I want to watch and when he says something I tell him well you’re on your phone I don’t want to watch it alone…. Then he puts the phone down. He does the same to me when I’m in my phone a lot. We make a point of reminding each other that we spend 8h of our lives away working and we need quality time if we want our relationship to work. 💕

Thanks everyone! I can't believe how much support and knowledge this app and the women on here provide ❤️. I'm going to try these tips and tell him I'm suggesting counselling if this way continues.