About to start IVF

My SO and I have a three year old daughter and have been TTC since Jan 2022. I had one miscarriage in April 2023 at 5 weeks, and we have been told my partner has low sperm count, low motility and low quality sperm. We are about to start IVF, and I basically just need some words of support, reassurance, & solidarity as I feel quite anxious about it. I feel like we should be able to do this ourselves and that IVF is such an uncertainty. I can feel nerves and tears and depression creeping in. And it just all feels so overwhelming! Any advice would be greatly received.

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Hey if it is solely male factor, then there are ways to improve his sperm and you never know it could happen naturally without needing ivf?

He should implement things like Impryl if he hasn’t already which has helped my hubby’s sperm massively, and we have also been recommended Proxeed sachets for him too. Avoid alcohol, wear loose boxers, avoid saunas and baths etc etc too. If he hasn’t tried all that for atleast 3 months, then maybe implement that before going for ivf? As like you said, there is definitely a huge uncertainty with ivf and I wish someone told me about these supplements before we rushed into IVF 2 years ago. Good luck x

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Thank you for your comment. We have tried all of those things to improve his sperm over the past 2yrs of trying. He exercises regularly, takes a lot to supplements (including things like Shilajit and Ashwaganda) and there has even been a decrease in sperm quantity from Nov 2023 to Feb 2024. So we really have tried everything natural to up his chances x

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Even when you might not feel it, you’ve got the strength to get through

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I know the feeling. Feel free to DM me if you need a chat x

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I know IVF is overwhelming but just try to take it one day at a time and think each day is getting me closer to my child. When you have your baby it will all be worth it

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@Rubi I totally agree with you I also wish if someone told me before about these medicine. I also had one ivf cycle failed. But now my husband count came really high motility good too but morphology still didn’t change 😞

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Hi! I’m so sorry your in this boat! But you are not alone. I’m there too and so many others. Thank you for sharing! I also wish doctors would tell us about the supplements instead of going straight to IVF! It’s so frustrating and hard to know what to supplement. Happy to connect further. We’re in the beginning of this ride

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