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Sex and Relationships with Railey Molinario

Asking for a friend. He’s definitely sneaky but should she breakup her marriage because of this?

She met this person through an organization they’re both affiliated with. Their relationship was only hi, how are you and goodbye for a long time. She didn’t know anything about his personal life, but she had run into him once and he was with a small child so she assumed he’s happily in a relationship. Time went on, she hadn’t seen him in almost a year, he appears again and is starting to be more friendly. He then reveals that his relationship has ended a few months back and that he had been sorting things out. A couple of months later, he’s trying to be more than friends with her and she was not into it and told him they’re better off being friends. However she starts developing feelings for him until she one day discovers that although he said his relationship had ended he was still legally married, so she distances herself again. A few months later, he tells her he had finalized his divorce and that the only reason he hadn’t done it before was because of all the legal headache but things were definitely over.
Fast forward just under a year from his divorce they get engaged and then married. After a while into the marriage and from some details she discovers that things may have not necessarily gone the same way he described. Based on certain events and some digging around, she suspects that the divorce (which did indeed happen as said) may have come as a surprise for the ex wife and that although he had said the relationship ended, it really had been that the ex wife had a job opportunity somewhere else and they had an arrangement where they had this long distance marriage thing. He used to go to spend time with her regularly until he decided to send her divorce papers. That is not to say that they didn’t have their own problems. He’s sticking to his story although it clearly doesn’t completely add up for her. And of course the ex seems to put the whole blame on her and is totally bitter towards her.
She’s feeling a mixture of emotions including anger but she doesn’t know what to do now.