Mediation
My ex has domestic abuse charges on him and is on probation. He hasn't seen our son in 9 months. Nor asked about him since December.
There's only a third party contact, and as soon as he gets out on probation, he's having his mom text me asking to have my son for a couple hrs alone. My son doesn't know them. So them having him alone for hours will stress him out tremendously. He even hates daycare.
His PO officer says I should go back to mediation and request supervised visits since my son barely knows these people, and they both are severely neglectful. (She let my newborn scream in his car seat for hrs and wouldn't call me to come get him. Fed him 18 Oz of formula in 4 hrs, fed him mashed potatoes at 2 months old, etc. Her husband has screamed at my son. So has my ex. My ex ignored him for 4 hrs while he cried for food and bc his diaper was dirty. I came home from work and his 5 years old was trying to comfort him.) As of right now I'm denying his mom access to my son, but I can't deny his father so I want less vague guidelines.
But I'm terrified to face him in court. I've had panic attacks at the thought of it.
My ex doesn't ever want to see him. He just likes stressing me out with threats of court and when I do agree to letting him Ragnar he backs out bc he thinks I'm gonna see my "boyfriend" and that's why I'm agreeing.
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@Katherine I've just been worried about rocking the boat. My ex just bluffs and has no interest in our son. The last time I filed, he retaliated.
I'm scared to go to court and have them possibly side with him. Rhats my biggest fear. Bc family court doesn't step in until kids get hurt and even then they don't do anything
You're just assuming. You don't know because you haven't tried, and realistically you could just move away and never have to see him again. Boss up and be mama bear, or lawyer up and have them go to court on your behalf.
@👑Jess👑 that's what I was told by a lawyer. He said I'd have to have proof he's unsafe towards my son. Bc his charges are from an incident with me, so that's not "proof" he's unsafe. My lawyers says that enless he does something and i have proof of it, there's not much. It's hearsay at this point. My ex isn't gonna admit to neglecting my son.
I'm going to go to court regardless, just scared. My ex is weaponizing CPS against me. Whenever I do something he doesn't like. They won't have anything to take my kid and my mom is well known in the county bc she teaches foster parents. So it won't do much as I'm living with her, but it's still a little traumatizing since I was removed from my birth family and he knows I'm terrified of CPS. (I whole heartedly believe they saved me but still, being removed from my home traumatized me)
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