Anyone else feel totally let down?
My baby was born last week and my husband is on paternity. I feel like I haven't stopped. I managed to have a VBAC which is great and the recovery isn't as bad as my previous c section but am I wrong to have expected a bit of rest?
I'm literally cooking cleaning washing and looking after my toddler. She's been at nursery 3 days this week and I've still not stopped. I feel like my husband would be here to help me rest and just let me sit and breastfeed my baby.
He's not even offered me a coffee or drink or just anything really. Am I expecting too much? I know he's to enjoy the time off too but I feel like I'm over doing it.
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Wtf is he even doing then? He literally may as well be at work 🥴.
this is what I said to him yesterday! He worked on the nursery for a day and now he has man flu/sickness bug/food poisoning 🙄 I was like well don't come near me or the baby then. He's spent a lot of time just doing nothing.
That would honestly wind me up so much. I’m so sorry he’s being shit!! Literally why are men?
I honestly don't know! I just feel so tired and deflated. Like am I being a princess expecting him maybe to make me breakfast or even just offer? I pushed a baby out 9 days ago!
From your initial post I would have said he’s useless, but if he’s actually sick, I’m not sure what you expect him to do about that? I have a stomach bug at the moment at 39 weeks and I’ve been in bed all day while my husband is running around doing everything with our toddler and the house. If you’re genuinely sick there’s not much you can do about it, and like you say you don’t want to catch it or give it to baby either.
But ordinarily, if he’s not unwell, of course he should be running around after you. Paternity leave isn’t for ‘enjoying his time off’, it’s for supporting the person who just gave birth
he's basically had the shits which isn't an unusual thing for him! He just has seemed to milk it IMO. We've tried to discuss it again but I'm still too upset I just keep getting upset
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