Cheating Boyfriend

I think being pregnant you may have that feeling

is she pregnant?

If you have that feeling, it's usually correct. What makes you think this?

no Im not pregnant. Lol
Maybe because hes done so in the past. I really need to get a hold of myself.
We have a 1 yr old together
I just don’t trust him.

I always say without trust, respect and communication, it doesn't matter how much love there is, it won't work. And cheating killed those things for your relationship. And that not your fault. There's no excuse for cheating. If he wanted to be with someone else, he should have left out of respect for you. I'm sorry you had that experience but not all men cheat and you should be able to trust the one you're with.

Then he more than likely is. Trust your gut momma

making the exit is where im fumbling. Idk why though because i have my own. Make more money. So moving out wouldn’t be a struggle. Its the detachment i think im struggling with ya know. God i wanna be done and just move on already

Unpopular opinion, but maybe stay until you hate him so that you won’t go back. Detachment is honestly a skill that takes time. If you really want to leave him, start labeling his behavior as really gross. Like just so icky and disgusting can’t fathom it. I promise you it works, the more you label his behavior and realize you’re much better than what he’s giving, you’ll be ready to leave. Please trust your intuition, especially with his past. Regardless, your intuition would not red flag you if this person was right for you. It would not set you off like that. Feel free to reach out, I’ve been where you are.

im gonna actively do this. I need to detach so i think this will work. How long did it take you to move on?

There was a lot of other factors, like abuse. So that was really the determining factor and how quickly I left. But I genuinely think if you continue to approach with that mindset and label the behavior you’ll start to notice after 2 weeks or so. You’ll start to lose interest and he will make you feel icky because you know you deserve better. Which doesn’t sound like a great feeling but it pushes you to leave. Persistently remind yourself of your worth. Listen to the podcast date yourself instead, it’s on Spotify! Her relationship advice is mostly for casual dating (without kids, husband, long term) but all of her messages still apply to self worth and detachment. I started listening every day and it makes you set boundaries for yourself and others and what you’re willing to tolerate. My standards are much higher, as they should be!

I also literally JUST left with the kids two weeks ago. So this is all very new to me. Our babies need to know respect, and if we’re being disrespected it doesn’t set a great example. Do you want your kids to grow up thinking cheating/being cheated on is acceptable? No way, that’s literally such VILE behavior. He’s not just disrespecting you, he’s disrespecting the family you guys created. Icky behavior if you ask me lol.

its funny destynee because my 13 yr old asked y i was always paying for everything she saw how her dad treated us. We didnt have to worry about anything but in this situation im the one always putting up. I def dont want her to think that this is normal because its not

See even your daughter doesn’t want you to settle! Another thing to keep telling yourself is if he wanted to he would!! If he is consistently showing you that he doesn’t want to, then you just have to take his word/actions for it.

Girl you liked my comment and I am so curious if you’re icky disgusted yet!!?