Do I have a point?
Sorry for the long post. So my bd smokes and he gets his stuff from one of his friends. Yesterday I heard them speaking on the phone abt his friend being really sick with a virus or something, hence why he hasn’t been coming over lately (I don’t like him tbh so I wasn’t complaining). Today I hear my bd saying “give me a shout whenever you’re there and I’ll come over to ur house” I pretended I didn’t understand and only asked “who were u talking to?” And he said it was to that friend of his. I had to go to the toilet and asked him to look after the baby for a few mins and he automatically asked “are u gonna be long?” And I knew he was gonna go there but still acted dumb and said “no”.
I wasn’t even finished and heard him saying “I have to leave I’m going to buy rolling paper” and I was like WTF can u not even wait 5 mins? And also why would u lie. (He has a past history of lying so it deeply annoys me). Then he took forever and when I phoned him he said he had to go somewhere to buy something for lunch as well as the rolling paper, and I told him I knew he went to his friends house and he said “yeah but it was like 5 min to get some stash”. I mean why TF would u lie abt it? First of all if I didn’t ask he wouldn’t have told me and he knew long ago he was gonna go there cause I heard him on the phone even before he left the house. And second, why the hell would he go there knowing that the guy is sick and he could catch something and put our baby at risk??? Like I’m so annoyed and he is acting as if I’m nuts and I don’t have a point. How would u ladies react?? It’s not the first time he goes to meet this fella and makes it seem likes he’s gone somewhere else. Also, I’m so annoyed now and really don’t want him near the baby. Am I overreacting?
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I was in the kitchen and literally heard him kissing the baby so I came straight away and told him not to do it and he starting a bit argument like wtf
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Well it’s clear you don’t like the friend so he lies to you because he doesn’t want to hear your mouth but ends up telling the truth anyway. He’s also clearly addicted to weed if he’s putting his child’s health in jeopardy just to get some. I’m sorry, no you’re not over reacting but maybe you guys can come to a compromise with him having that friend since it seems like you’re okay with ur bd smoking weed. Maybe something like “go there to pick up what you want but don’t spend more than an hour?” And if you know he’s lying don’t give him the opportunity to continue the lie because it will just piss you off more. Communicate about it before he goes. “Look I know you’re lying to me I overheard you say blah blah blah, I know you’re going to do this so just be truthful.”
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Your not over reacting I wouldn’t let him near the baby at all until 5 days later so you know the sickness is gone bc infants can get sick easier and depending on what the sickness is they could die idk what he has but I would definitely keep him from that baby for 5-10 days!
It’s good to know I’m not the only one thinking this way 🙌🏻 thanks so much 🤍 @jasmine
what bothers me is that he has a past history of lying so if he keeps lying abt stupid things how will I ever trust him? Plus, if he lies abt this what else will he lie abt? I don’t like the friend, and don’t like him to come over but never said anything abt him going over to his house. So I really don’t care if he’s there for an hour, two or three. I’m just really pissed cause this ONE time he could have had some common sense and just don’t go there if he knew the friend was sick and we have a 3 month old. Prob lied abt it bc he knew how wrong it was, but instead of apologising he’s still acting as if im the one in the wrong which is really annoying lmao. And he always does this, fucks up and then acts as if nothing happened and nothings wrong in the world
lol I totally understand how you feel. He’s entitled to do whatever because he doesn’t think how it can affect other people. The only thing I can say is my ex lied a lot about stupid shit and I realized I was partly to blame because of my reactions. He would be so scared of me over reacting (which I have done) that he wouldn’t tell me even the most stupid littlest things.
Calm Communication is key here. And as far as putting the baby at risk that’s extremely selfish. In that moment his fix was more important than his babies health and that’s where I would have my serious issue.
not overreacting' i'd be annoyed at. My BD also hangs with loser friends i'm very clear i don't approve of. If he wants to prioritize hanging with his boy over keeping me n my family safe he can suffer the consequence. I also wouldn't allow him around our child tht soon after visiting a man who clearly told him he's sick ! dumb n dumber won't be having my bby ill
Amen 👏🏻
exactly!! Prob is with this guy you can never win even if you’re right cause either he’ll act as if you’re the one in the wrong/crazy and cause a massive argument or he’ll just ignore me until he feels like speaking to me. And when I mentioned I didn’t want him around the baby he had the balls to tell me “don’t start with ur bs@ cause he’s friend ain’t sick no more. How tf is he not sick if it was literally yesterday I heard them on the phone? So sick of this tbh
same with mine? oblivious to reality because he prioritized friendships over the family he helped create 🙄
shame he'd risk babies health for a hangout. does his friend have kids ' he actively involved with?
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