New Mom -Narcissist parents

Do you all feel that it's been harder to be a mother than your peers, having grown up in a Narcissistic household? If so, how has it been harder? Asking for a friend.

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I'm still pregnant with my first but I definitely feel this, I wished I had a different mother. I lived with my parents for a few months (until last week) to save money before baby comes. My brother and his girlfriend (I their 30s) get to sit at the comfy seats at the dining table while myself and my partner had to sit at the bar stools at the breakfast bar every night for dinner. The fact that I was pregnant just isn't even acknowledged, no one helped us move house. These are just some small examples, I could honestly go on and on but yes definitely more difficult than someone with a loving family.

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I have lived with my mom since the day my son was born and both of my brothers told me when I turn 18 run and leave and I finally got my own apartment at 26 years old and became my own Representative payee for my social security money . Cause she was trying to control me and everything I do and she has said some fucked up things like I need to lose weight and growing up she never listened or even state down to talk about stuff and ever since I had my son who is going to be 6 years old she yells at him and calls him names and he has ASD aka autism spectrum disorder and told me I need to stop taking my meds and deal with my emotions the real way . When she is the main big cause as to why I'm on meds other then that I have bad anxiety .

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I'm now 27 years old I'll be 28 in June and I have my own apartment and pay my own bills and she talks about me to people and says things that are not true and I'm trying to set boundaries and limits . My mom also chose drugs over her 3 kids and left us with our grandma tell all 3 of us went into different foster homes and I'm breaking all the general curses and removing trauma bonds and trying to protect mine and my son's peace and happiness .

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Can baby mamas be friends?

My son has an older brother from his biodad. Biodad has never had contact with my son. One thing lead to another though and the other child's mother and I got in contact and are planning a meeting for the boys. Biodad has no idea any of this has happened. Biodad also hasnt had contact with the other child in about 2 years. Just thoughts, opinions, anyone been through something similar?
Edit-Thank you all! Have definitely been feeling somewhat weird about it because we never met before but now know it can be a good thing definitely helps. I can't wait for them to meet. My son has been asking for a brother and I can now happily tell him he has one. That just happens to be 13. Im sorry for yall that fight/have issues with the other baby mamas. Sadly some women rather be stuck on the men, when the kid is the one who really matters. They're the ones that end up getting hurt and missing out.

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Is it normal to test positive still? (Wouldn't usually do one)

Not the best pic and clearer in person. Is this normal? I've not had any sex since having my LO but I've had strong cravings, sense of smell is strong and my hair still hasnt started to fall out. Im 7 weeks pp so 🤷‍♀️ I wouldnt normally bother testing but with those symptoms that I never really have its like whats going on. Cravings for something very specific too and can only get from KFC now 😩 so its annoying

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Anyone have this happen before?

We were not trying to conceive, used protection and had sex on week 2 of my cycle (accidentally on my peak ovulation day). Week 3 we had Flu A. Week 4 my period did not come (it’s very regular). I tested and it was negative (2 different brands).
What should have been week 2 of my next cycle (now 6 weeks post last period), I had light red/ pink spotting for one day when I wiped. The following week, I tested again, still negative, but this time almost all the dye was in the negative space, which I’ve never seen happen before. The area where it shows one horizontal line for negative and a plus sign for positive, the horizontal line was super faded at the 3 minute mark, and the negative vertical line in the next window was VERY dark. Now I’m on week 8 of all this, period did not show up yesterday. Nothing in my life has changed (no additional stress, no other illness, no changes in diet or exercise, etc).

Has anyone gone through this and NOT been pregnant? I’m super nervous as we thought we were done having kids.

PS. I know I should go get a blood test, does anyone know if urgent care will do that? I’m past being convinced by a pee test.

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Am I pregnant?

I lightly spotted almost 5 days ago, which is not common for me before my period.
My period was supposed to come today. I should have tested in the morning but its 5:30pm.
Is there a second line??

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Ovulation test

Please please someone clarify if this test is positive. Im pretty sure it is but Im in disbelief at the minute I haven’t ovulated in 8 months. I feel like crying lol. When is the best time to have sex?

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Ovulation test

I know this group is for pregnancy test but just want to double check this ovulation test is positive. I haven’t had a positive ovulation test in months and months I think Im gonna cry. When is best to have sex after a positive ovulation test and how likely is it to get pregnant?

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