Pressure to potty train almost 2 and 3 year old

You are the mom and know them best. Don't let yourself be pressured into something if you are not ready. As a side note as you don't go into details in your post. If you haven't tried it yet. Grab them as so as they start weeing on the floor and sit them on the potty and say calmly wee goes into the potty. Keep the potty close at all times. Clean up the floor together (as in they can hand you towels and throw them in the wash). Just keep it light. You got this when you and the kids are ready.

I did that with my youngest and he got so upset, I think maybe he really isn’t ready yet. I need to try with my oldest. It’s really so frustrating especially when the potty is right there and she chooses to go on floor. Ugh I’m so anxious that it won’t get done soon enough. Thank you for responding

Hey mama!
I was in your shoes 3 months ago. I was literally in tears because I didn’t know where to start with potty training my almost 3 year old. I had started and stopped twice because it would overwhelm me.

I’m going to be honest: first, I prayed. I’m not at all assuming you’re religious, but it’s important for me to share that bringing this issue to the Lord first is when I really started to feel some relief about it.
You are not a failure. You’re learning too. Do not let your grandma and MIL dump guilt and shame on you.

Then, I read “Potty Training in 3 Days” by Brandi Brucks (which is significant to note that when you actually read it, it makes it clear that it might not all be totally sorted in just 3 days 🤪)
I actually found a lot of it helpful. I definitely also listened to my own gut and trusted that I know my daughter, but there was some excellent advice. She goes into your child’s personality type and what each child may need done a little differently based on that.

I get the frustration. It's a whole new concept you are teaching them. As they say, they won't go to college in nappies

thank you for this message. With my oldest who’s turning 7, he started around 3 as well but would actually use the potty. The accidents with daughter are so much more frustrating because we live in an apartment that’s mostly carpeted so the messes are harder to clean, and I’m already so tired and overwhelmed so I just end up feeling mad about it and then just want to give up. You’re right about the praying part, I probably will find some relief in that. I just can’t wait to be proved wrong and not stay thinking that she won’t be potty trained before kindergarten. Such a ridiculous thought, but so hard not to think about being an overthinker. So you ended up doing the 3 day potty training? That’s where they’re naked the first day right and have accidents but helps them to learn their body cues more etc??

Some key things I took away from the book: MY child needed this to be thoroughly explained to her before we started. The exact plan and details of what was going to happen when we started.

The book advised NOT keeping a potty everywhere because that reinforces the idea that we can potty anywhere. Choose one spot, ideally the bathroom, and leave it there. When an accident starts happening, pick them up while they’re going and carry them to that toilet - calmly and happily. Try to make it fun - we had a song we learned from one of my daughter’s books. And I’d sing it while I smiled and wooshed her to the toilet and she peed all over me the first couple times 😂 the very first time we did this, she screamed and cried. But while she sat on the toilet I kept smiling and calmly reassured her that this was okay and we were LEARNING.

We also reinforced with treats. I’m not a big fan of giving my kids a bunch of sugar or processed sweets, but I made an exception for about a week to do this.

And we gave her SO MUCH liquid so that she had to pee all the time and would get ALL the practice in 😅 lots of watered down juice because that felt like a treat since she never gets juice l. And I froze all natural juice into popsicles - that was her treat for pottying in the toilet. It’s sweet, fun, and gave her even more liquid to pee out later 😂 She got one square of chocolate as a treat for pooping in the toilet.

We also got her a bunch of kids books about using the toilet and being a big girl, I’ll share some titles later when I get home and can find them. She loves books so this was really helpful.

bless your heart! I feel you! We are also in a carpeted apartment and this was one of my big struggles too.

The book made naked or underwear optional. Our daughter liked the new undies we got her a lot, so we used them as part of the fun and started with them on day 1. But we didn’t do any other layers because we wanted getting on the toilet to be as easy as possible.

thank you so much for the support and all the information I really really appreciate it ❤️