Anyone nervous about sending little one to nursery? And has experience working in one

I’m really nervous about sending my baby girl (1 years old) to nursery as even though I believe I found an amazing one I get worried as I used to work in a nursery and found that sometimes practitioners could be rude or not as caring with the children as you would expect (obviously nothing horrendous! But I remember at the time feeling shocked at someone yelling at a really young toddler for not doing something that bad) anyone else who worked at a nursery previously feel this way?

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I work in a nursery there are some places that are just spot on and others that aren’t. The deal breaker for me would be the manager. If you genuinely feel like the manager is good the trust it. IF something did happen, like a practitioner shouting, would it get brushed under the carpet or would the manager pull them up on it. Just speaking from experience, I have got to trust the manager first

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I worked in nurseries and though I can't deny I haven't seen some bad practice on the whole it was very positive. Having experience will help you find the right one and you will be able to ask more questions. Though it is a while off yet for our little one going to nursery I am nervous but know how much he will gain going

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I am nervous. I visited a few nurseries and at one of them this lady spoke to a little boy in an angry voice, at snack time, because I think he smooshed food into his face, or something like that, you know, normal toddler behaviour. Then she looked angry for a while after and I also saw her on her phone. And that was all while the manager was showing me around.😐
The manager emailed me later that day to ask my thoughts and when I said this was why I won’t be sending my child there, she didn’t even reply.😐
A member of staff behaving like that in the first place is imo unacceptable, but to also do it when the manager is around makes me think it’s a normal thing for them to do. And then for the manager to not even reply to my email I think is really bad as well.
It’s just scary that you can make all the effort at home not to shout at your child, and then you place them in someone else’s care and they will. And your child can’t even tell you or defend themselves.

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