At what age is is ok to bedshare? My 15 month little girl wakes up every couple of hours and we end up having to hold her back to sleep. She is getting incredibly hard to transfer back into her crib. She has to have contact atm to fall asleep. I’m so exhausted. I’d rather bedshare than sleep train atm as I don’t think I can tolerate her crying even with gentler methods. I’ve tried in the past and she becomes hysterical. I just worry so much about suffocation and SIDS. I know breastfeeding is part of the safe sleep 7 but my girl was only breastfed for a few weeks (long story but mental health issues and tongue tie cut that journey short) does this mean it’s dangerous to cosleep? I just can’t decide at what age it’s considered safe? I know the NHS isn’t keen on bed sharing but I’m at my wits end. My girl is 98th percentile for height and weight. She has good mobility but isn’t walking unassisted yet - will walk holding one of our hands. She can pull up etc so she should beable to move/ free herself somewhat if she (god forbid) got stuck somehow? How did you make the decision that it’s safe to bedshare? I see so many posts about people taking their toddlers back to bed with them, but I’m so worried. If anyone’s got any advice I would be grateful.
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I’ve been doing it for months, ik try to keep him in his cot but sometimes I just need to sleep, he moves around so much there’s more chance of him rolling on me than him! 😂 at 15months you will be totally fine! X

I’ve bed shared practically since my son was born (I think I gave up on the bassinet after about a week). And we’re now almost 15 months into bed sharing. SIDS and suffocation isn’t really a risk anymore after 1 year old.

Co-sleeping doesn’t increase SIDS.
Toddlers are out of SIDS risk amyway. You can stop worrying and make your life easier and sleep with your baby like most of the mothers have been doing for centuries.

We've always bed shared. Since birth. I think it's totally natural for babies to be next to their mum's.

https://www.unicef.org.uk/babyfriendly/news-and-research/baby-friendly-research/infant-health-research/infant-health-research-bed-sharing-infant-sleep-and-sids/?fbclid=IwAR0aaBE3VQvicHz735FFA7bG6fbNHzscApof0Ptf2_5YQpuJfFwFgLlmREw

From birth if done correctly lovely! Guidelines have changed in a few countries recently so breastfeeding is no longer required too. We have since 9 months and I wish we did sooner xx

We've been bed sharing for months xx

I read a research that says it is good for a child to sleep with the parents till they are 7. Because they need to feel safe etc. If that’s the case then why can’t a 15 month old. Mine is 15 months and he doesn’t want to sleep in his cot anymore and just sleeps with us. He’s a menace cause he sleeps the opposite direction of us. But he’s a sweetheart 😅

The nhs has changed their guidance on safe sleep and has accepted cosleeping is happening secretly as mums are ashamed so they’ve come out and provided guidance on how to do it safely. We also need to remember that in some countries it’s common practice to cosleep.
I coslept when my daughter was a newborn because I needed sleep, then late last year she wouldn’t go in her cot so I coslept until recently. I’m now trying to get her to sleep in her room. I’ve done away with the cot because she sleeps better on a mattress and I am currently sleeping on a mattress next to her and I’m planning to retreat slowly etc.
My point is, do not feel guilty or ashamed. Far too many judgey people out there. Do whats best for you and your baby. Take a look at the resources available so you can just make sure you’re doing it safely and enjoy co sleeping. I love it, it feels like the most natural thing in the world

My daughter used to sleep like an angel, but since about 12 months, she wakes up and won’t go back to sleep. What we discovered is if we just bring her straight into our bed and place her between us (not covering her or allowing her on pillows) she falls straight back to sleep and we can all rest. I strongly recommend it! We move our pillows to the sides and create a gap for her in the middle, we leave her In her sleeping bag unless she feels warm. Hope you find it helps x

We bed share for the same reason most nights. She goes in her cot to begin with but wakes and won’t go back in so I bring her in with me (partner sleeps next door as he snores horrendously 😂) xx

We bed share with our 16 month old baby boy, have done since birth day one. I still face him and he doesnt have any covers or pillows. He faces me and we have a little distance

We bed share with my little boy.