Screen time me and boyfriend are not on the same page

My boyfriend is always proposing tv or cell phone to my 2 years old boy. It’s so frustrating cause I always try to change is mind cause he keeps asking for screen. As soon as I ask him to look for the kid for like two minutes the screen is back on messing all the work I have done keeping him away from it. We keep arguing about that! I’m so frustrated about this since I know it’s definitely a problem for my kid who’s reacting really badly (terrible two you know). I feel like he thinks I’m the bad parent since I’m the one who always says no. I don’t know what to do about that.

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Go mama! If your standards are higher for your son as far as entertainment goes (as are mine), and prefer as much time away from TV as possible, have your alternative activities ready and demand the use of them! I feel like my bf too will be trying to cop out of quality interaction time by choosing the TV instead. Maybe explaining from your heart why you want your son to have a less diluted upbringing in front of a TV (if that's the part that concerns you), instead of arguing, might help your bf understand and respect your position because of your reasons. Maybe then he will want to make more effort to join in your son's best development. If on the other hand, you bf feels it's his decision to choose the entertainment, (everybody needs the break and help of a TV sometimes) you might have to hard ball your rule or let it go for a few minutes. I think peace for your son is more important. Your son will ultimately learn the MOST from your good examples and thrive developmentally on your alternative activities.

You're definitely not a bad parent for saying no to your son! You're the mother and should be respected when you say something. Don't give up, stay consistent, stay calm, keep all your love in the front of your heart and stand by what you know is best for your kid <3

Wow! Thank you so much for your answer 🥰 it really help me feel better. It so hard sometimes and I guess we both feel a little overwhelm sometimes. The evening are not easy: running from work, getting the dinner ready and everything. I will try to explain to him the reason and hopefully he will see my point and respect my choice.

You're doing a great job managing your life and every mom knows it is not easy! Stay strong and keep up the good work 💯💯

Screen time or not, your son will most likely still be “terrible” at 2….. most toddlers are…

Screen time isn’t bad if not overly used. I will say, you two should try to find a common ground because it shouldn’t all be your way nor his way. It’s both of your kid so both should have a say of how they want to do things. Hypothetically speaking, if you two broke up and had to co-parent, you wouldn’t be able to stop what dad does at his house, so why not compromise and try to get on the same page since you two are together and under 1 roof.

I'm a zero screen time mom for my baby and I'm able to spend the whole day with her without putting on any screens for her and the second I have my husband watch her so I can make dinner he puts on something on YouTube for her 🤦‍♀️ it pisses me off so bad

Show him the metric fuck ton of research showing the negatives of screen time. There's a book on it called The Big Disconnect that is really helpful.

You are not a bad parent, I personally am more relaxed about the screen but I understand why you may not want your son on it. I would have a converstation with him about how you guys should be on the same page when it comes to parenting, otherwise it will confuse your son as he is not old enough to know right from wrong

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