Depressed & burnt out

I can’t seem to shake this feeling… I feel so depressed and irritated and I just wanna scream. I wanna up and leave. I hate my life but I don’t wanna say that because it’s so selfish & ungrateful of me.
Ever since my child was born it’s been challenging & overwhelming. Idk what I’m doing wrong. I hate myself as a mother. I kept/ keep telling myself “when he’s this age it’ll be better” but so it seems as he reaches the ages there’s no “better”.. I’m a stay at home mom.. I’m on the edge of calling my relationship quits because I feel unheard & to him I’m just bitchy all the time but I’m bitchy because I feel like I’m a live in maid & doormat. I cried & prayed to be a mom and I just don’t understand why my child hates me.. sometimes I feel like they’d be better off without me. I hate that I’ve gotten to this point of thought & I don’t physically wanna hurt myself but I guess that’s what people say & think but still come to but I really don’t.. I just need a breather. Idk I just don’t know what Gods plan is and I just feel like I’m really struggling here.

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Hi! I can not even imagine how you are feeling. However, do you have anyone who can listen to you? Is there any other support besides your partner? Because it's okay to ask for help and you are not alone in feeling this way. I am sure that there are people who care about you and want to support you through this difficult time.
I hope you have someone who can help you take a break so you can practice self-care. Maybe it will be good to engage in activities that you enjoy, get enough rest, eat well, and exercise. Taking care of yourself will help you better care for your baby.
Most importantly, you need to prioritize your mental health and well-being. Seeking help is a sign of strength, and there are resources available to assist you in coping with these overwhelming feelings.

I send you warm regards!

This sounds like post partum depression and a shitty partner who’s not supporting you properly😢 I would ring the doctors and ask to speak to someone there is help out there 🤍 I’m so sorry you’re feeling so down

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way and I bet you’re doing a much better job than you think you are! Please reach out, speak to your health visitor or GP, there is support available to you and you’ll find lots of other parents feel this way and get through it with the right approach and support! Sending love xx

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