Vasectomy advice
Need some advice please… long story short, my husband is a firm no on any more babies (we have two already), so I told him that he should get a vasectomy if that is how he feels. I personally wanted to try for one more baby, but obviously if he doesn’t then it’s a no go. How long would you give him to get the vasectomy done before going off of birth control pills? I don’t want to take them anymore for eternity if we are truly done having kids, due to the side effects etc.
If he doesn’t want to get the vasectomy, by all means his body his choice but I do not want to be on birth control pills anymore.
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Get off of them already and let him know, if he really doesn’t want another child he will quickly do the vasectomy to avoid impregnating you. Otherwise you’ll get yourself another gorgeous baby if he doesn’t act quickly 😄
I would say also “your body, your choice” as well. Obviously let him know if you get off the pill but it’s just as much his responsibility to prevent as it is yours. Or tell him a certain date you plan to be done with your pills so if he doesn’t have it done by then, he will need to use another form of protection.
Exactly, your body your choice goes both ways. Why is it always on women to prevent pregnancies ? Tell him you’ll be done with pills in a month for example, and if he doesn’t do anything by then that’s on him.
My husband recently just had a vasectomy he was adamant he didn’t want anymore kids and I can’t take the pill it gives me headaches so we were using condoms so I said it’s either snip or if we have an accident I won’t be getting rid he agreed to snip but that was it, in the end I had to get the ball the rolling and rung his doctors for him etc as you know what men are like. It was pretty quick from after the initial call. But in the mean time we were still using condoms. My husband said it was so quick and painless just abit uncomfortable but it’s over within 15mins. Hope this helps.
thanks- just last week, I had told him I will be stopping the pill in three months. Do you think that’s ample time for him to make the appt and get the procedure done? Not sure how long of waits there are for this type of thing.. also, I am allergic to latex lol. So if he dies not follow through within these three months, then as far as backup contraception we cannot use condoms. Not sure what I would do there other than “try” to avoid having sex around my “fertile days” or the pullout method which I feel neither are too effective 😭
There are latex-free condoms and other latex free things, you can purchase online or in stores.
I think 3 months is plenty of time to give him. Maybe it will encourage him to get the ball rolling on it. I have no idea how long it takes to make the appointment and get it done. My husband has yet to go through this. Again, just be up front and when that time comes at the 3 month mark just tell him “hey just a reminder, I’m no longer on the pill.” Pull out method has been effective for us except for our 2 planned pregnancies but I obviously wouldn’t recommend that to other people bc I know that’s not true for everyone haha. I’m sure once that 3 month mark hits and he wants to have sex but not have another child, he will make the appointment lol
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