Once you fall out of love with your husband is it too late to fix your marriage?
My husband and I have been married for just over a year and we share a 2 month old.
Since the beginning of our marriage he never really put an emphasis on Deeping or maintaining our bond and was always more focused on my relationship with his family.
This obviously caused a lot of arguments and he eventually stopped pushing me to see his family all the time.
By kadr of Allah, I fell pregnant months into our marriage despite being on birth control and through my pregnancy I attended 99% if my appointment with either my sister or mum and all he did was complain about my changing body (he was in denial that we were having a baby)
Fast forward to pp, he now just complains that I can't have dinner ready on time/don't cook fresh meals as much (esp during Ramadan) and can't clean as much.
Through this whole journey I've lost a lot of feelings for him and I dislike being around him it's to the point I encourage him to get a second wife when we have out daily argument.
Is there anyway to bring back the love or is if too far gone?
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Your story is VERY similar to what I am going through. It is such a difficult time with the postpartum hormones also. I am trying to stay patient and hoping that the love will come back. Feel free to message me if you'd like.
That’s really nasty of him to do. You have a 2 month old and all he does is moan about food not being ready on time? He needs to grow up. It’s very selfish tbh.
You sound very patient and I pray things get better. There’s ways to improve things through communication, counselling and connecting with each other by doing things you enjoy together. Most of all, it requires motivation from both parties not just one side
From what youre saying it sounds like from the get go theres never been a foundation to your relationship no bond/liking. The reality is you cant have a successful marriage with someone who is essentially a stranger to you or isnt atleast on the same page as you. It also sounds like he wasnt on the same page about the pregnancy. I feel like when you have a kid it put so much strain on even when you have a bond let alone when you don’t. I personally dont think your relationship is too far gone there is a chance you could initiate and reconnect on a different level to understand each other and make a relationship between yourselves however it comes down to if hes on the same page or is open to doing that.
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