what would you do ?
I was looking thru S/O phones and found some explicit photos of women and whatsapp convos. We were talking about buying a house, having another kid, making us work but now i just wanna distance myself bc now i feel horrible
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What made you initially go through his phone?
I agree with Nancy, there must’ve been a reason as to why you felt like you needed to go through his phone. Not only that, are they recent chats? If it were me I’d have a sit down chat and ask him what he wants in life.
Gut instincts never lie
Well. I though my husband was cheating on me and he was. He slept with someone after having out 2nd kid. And I stayed to try and make it work. And now I'm on the verge of a breakdown daily trying to escape from this toxic mess. I don't want to scare you, but gut instincts are real.
in the past it had been an issue and when we started talking about our future i just didn’t want to get my hopes up and looked
some of them were especially whatsapp but i feel like he’s on dating sites
I'm so sorry hun 😞 Personally I'd just end it.
End it 💕 you deserve better
how would i even begin to bring it up
Personally I would start off like “I know we had a chat recently about what we would want from life.. another child, to make us work etc but I want to know that’s what you truly want… “
and if he suspects anything or asks why.. You’ve got to be honest. Firstly apologise for going through his phone but at the same time you’re not as it’s uncovered what you suspected and no one gets to disrespect you like that. Basically give him an ultimatum- it’s either you guys and your little family or he goes and let him carry on as, he’s the one acting as if he’s single at the moment chatting and whatever else x
And don't let him turn anything back on you, or start making you feel guilty. Whatever you decide stand firm. You are a strong woman and you deserve better. (If that's what's actually going on)
thank you so much. it’s such a change from dating to becoming parents
It’s okay🙂feel free to message me if you need or want to. I know how hard it is when you want the best for you and your little family but you have a child to think about also. Been through it unfortunately but we’re working through it and it’s going well. All the best girl 🫶🏼
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