Single at 31 weeks

Don’t settle girly. First of all. Even the strongest couples argue. My parents argued a lot when I was a kid growing up. They still at the end of the day loved each other even through their arguments they did. You love somebody through the arguments and the good times no excuses. If he’s saying that then I’m sorry but he doesn’t love you and probably doesn’t even know what love really is. You need to forget about it and find somebody who knows exactly what it is. It’s either wrong person or wrong time hun. Please take care of yourself ❤️

Amen

Also thank you 🙏 it really means a lot to me

You deserve better girl. Don’t have him sign the birth certificate and get him on child support when baby comes ❤️

Your not overthinking babe, he's telling u he only stayed because your pregnant..no, u don't need that..he could have said from the get go but I get it, he thought he could try and make it work..but failed..he fucked up when he said it's hard to love when arguing..I argue with my other half and still love him unconditionally, whoever started it. He sounds like he's detached already.

I just found out he thinks we’ve kissed too much, hugged too much, touched too much. When we barely touched to begin with. I’m really at a loss for words. This whole relationship was a lie.

Did he jus say that to you? How did u find out

just told me through text

He waited all this time to tell me how he’s really felt

If hoodwinked was a person, it’d be me.

I agree with not settling. However I would have to say that him saying “It’s hard to love you when arguing” isn’t him saying his love is conditional. He feels like he’s always in defense mode in conversations. I saw a woman say that same exact line on the Karamo show and broke down in tears. Unfortunately men do not communicate in the ways we want them to, the ones that do are what I like to call “evolved men”🤣 But from what I see, he reassured you that he loves you even after but you chose again to argue. Even tho he said he said he tried to do right by you, to me that’s what a partner should want to do: do right by them (I’ve said this to my partner when we were on the verge of breaking up). He wanted to take responsibility because he knew what his actions led to. Nothing I’ve read said he did not care or love you. It just seems like he’s tired of the fighting. But I did want to ask if he blatantly said he didn’t want a family?

read her comments girl ..

You deserve better than that. You shouldn’t be in a relationship where one person or both feel trapped/ not into it and don’t even say anything. It’s happened to somebody I know before. It’s just not okay. I’m sure you deserve better than that. The right man is gonna wanna kiss you huh you grab your booth etc ALL THE TIME because he loves you and wants to show that affection towards you. I’m sorry this is happening but maybe it’s for the better. I know it coulda happened sooner maybe before he got you pregnant but at least it’s happening now so you can start to heal and look after number one. You and your precious baby ❤️

Babe your defo not overthinking it!! I was in a VERY toxic relationship and still loved him after and during the arguments! I wouldn’t ever doubt my love for someone because we had a bad day or week or even month! You and baby deserve so much better you deserve to be cherished not just loved! Please don’t ever settle or doubt yourself xxxxxxx

When I first got pregnant, me & my partner were already fighting & on the verge of breaking up all the time beforehand even tho we both knew we love eachother. He left me at 1 1/2 months until I was 3 months, he came back & somehow were worked things out (even tho I was adjusting to life without him). I sat down & thought about it, I know what I’m arguing with isn’t unreasonable but there are better ways to word things but also not every argument is worth it. I learned which arguments were worth fighting for & which ones to just diffuse. Because in all honesty no one wants the place that’s supposed to be their “peace” a battlefield equitably after dealing such life everyday. My partner said the same thing as yours: How he loves me, wants to take responsibility, grow old with me; I said to him that I wanted to right by him and just be with my person. Easy love that you see all over social media exists but so is a love with fighting for. Both are valuable & precious.

My partner & I are in a better place now after everything. I actually didn’t think we would ever be here again. I’m able to communicate what I want without him feeling like he has to go in defense mode and Vice versa. Gentle reminder that love is work but also kind. You know your relationship best. Also be very kind to yourself momma ❤️💖 sending all the love to you to find clarity & peace

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@Incognito I still stand by what i I said but in light of the new information; even if he was saying it from a place of hurt. There isn’t an excuse to talk to someone you supposedly love let alone the mother of your child like that. You deserve to embrace with love even when it’s hard. And you should be loved in the way you feel soft and secured. Find yourself, be kind to yourself, heal and just continue to show up for you; soon your baby. He has a lot of apologizing, growth and he needs to prove himself if he chooses to come back. Men know when they hurt a good girl and they find it hard to leave them alone especially now you share a child. Ignore him and focus on yourself, the man who will never stop keeping his hands off you will appear when you least expect it.

He said I should have known he wasn’t ready 🙁 sir you said you supported my decision no matter what I chose so how you want to switch up now, 7 weeks before baby.

I’m not the one arguing with him??? He is picking fights with me over my PlayStation being on, my tone of voice making him feel like a slave apparently & my phone being too loud. I have a complicated pregnancy I do not have the spoons to deal with him too. “Doing right by me” does nothing for me when I’ve moved out of my house to be with him (I’m alone here across the country from all family) & thrown my career in the trash to start a family w a “man” who is now telling me he didn’t want it. His idea of a partner is & I quote “someone to have fun with & have sex with occasionally”. 😒😩🤯

He never said he loved me, he says he has feelings for me; he felt pressured to say it back but knew he shouldn’t have said it at all. He was just trying to make it work.
Maybe that works for other people but I don’t appreciate false pretenses. I appreciate honesty. I don’t want him back, I’m mad he wasted my time & sprung this all on me with 7 weeks to go 😞

I can relate on the alone part as I don’t have family or friends here, though I moved here long before I met my partner. I made my comment from what I read, I’m sorry if I misunderstood in anyway. I thought you said that he did say it. The arguing could’ve been for either end but it is something no one likes doing. But as I said in my last comment, forget him because he has no rights to talk to you like that. People who love and care for one another do not hurt eachother on purpose; if they do then that says alot about their character. I’m sorry he did an awful thing. If you choose to let him be apart of the child’s life, he has alot to prove as a person/man. If you choose to do it so he isn’t involved at all, know that you are strong & worth so much more than how he has made you feel. And someone out there will appreciate the efforts you were trying to give to someone who didn’t. You got this mama ❤️

can you get child support from someone who isn’t on a birth certificate ?