Bottle refusal

Just looking for some advice. My baby has just turned 4 months. I will be returning to work in about a month.

He is an EBF baby and for the past few weeks I have tried to introduce a bottle ( breast milk) to him in advance of him being left with nursery/ parents next month.

He has a complete meltdown and doesn’t like it being anywhere near his mouth. So far, I have tried different bottles ( MAM and Lasinoh), different temperatures, formula and breast milk, mum/ partner feeding him whilst I’m out of the room.

I have gone to a breastfeeding support group which had just similar suggestions. We have tried to keep being positive when trying to feed him, playing and high voices etc. but not having much luck.

Would anyone have any similar stories, any advice etc. I would be very grateful for any little tips 😂

Thank you in advance 😊

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Why?

I am sick of my family telling me there’s something wrong with my baby.

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