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Not at all. I did the same thing! My step mom totally understood and said she did the same thing
NTA, i did the same for the birth of my daughter. I did not call or text anyone, and it was more peaceful that way. i was able to spend her first moments with her in the hospital and with my partner as well as sent out to everyone prior no one was welcome to my home either. Ive been able to take her first month of life at my own pace and when i was ready i allowed one at a time people to come see her with the understanding that they are not to overstep and to follow the boundaries we set in place. Do what you feel is best and if you do end up needing help? you make that known that your child is taken care of and you need support whether thats help around the house or just someone to talk to! and that may sound bad but i let everyone who we allowed to see my daughter that shes taken care of, im the one who needs xyz. and so far that has been respected!
i’m one of those people that struggle so bad to say no and my mom wants to be there when i go into labor but i can’t say no cuz i feel so bad that i just keep pushing it off hoping she won’t ask me again🥲 my fiancé doesn’t care if she’s there but i just don’t know if i want here there. i have 2 other sisters one is older than me but the chances of her ever getting married n having kids is very low and my other sister is only 6 n my mom thinks she’s going to pass before getting that chance with her and that’s where the guilt comes in🫠
Did the same thing with my daughter my sil got shitty but ended up getting over it and respecting my boundaries I think I had people over around 3 weeks but I did want it to be later but they was only around for 1 hour then left so it wasn't too bad you should do what you want it's Soo natural to just want you and baby time your mum will get over it but if she does come over I would get your partner to come to the door and just say were not accepting visitors or just lock the door and don't answer they can't come in if you don't answer Also you can also not tell them you have had the baby sand and just text them when your ready
Was your mom there for labor with your firstborn? If so, Was it a positive experience?
NTA - I've been telling everyone that I don't want anyone to come see us until after at least 2 weeks at home. Now it has changed to more than that because I want my mum and MIL to be the first ones to see baby after those two weeks so yeah 🤷🏻♀️
Honestly completely fair!! I was thinking to do the same. I feel so much of that precious time with my first was taken away by people coming and going. I was not able to establish breastfeeding and feel like my baby was taken and passed around in some ways. I think i will do at least 1 week maybe 2 with no visitors this time around! ❤️ you do whats right for you mama!
NTA! we had the same talk with our families. we have a large energetic dog who is easily overwhelmed and finds it really hard to settle when we have guests over so the last thing we want is to deal with that when we are just coming home from hospital when he is gonna be over the top for a week or so already.