Potty training

You're not a failure.
Every kid is different. Some take to potty training like fishes to water. Others require more time.
My son is 2 and we're getting ready to head into PT territory soon. I'm curious how my son will take to it. So far, he's no fish.

I'm going through it too. My daughter was doing so well at first because it was new and fun and all the sudden she is over it. I will be following this for any advice!

My son is 2.5 and I haven't started yet, I don't even know where to begin

I am literally crying in his room because he went to the toilet and peed in his underwear in front of it !!! He won’t tell me when he has to pee I reward him with candy when he does go now he’s over that too

And then all this advice of don’t use the potty chair or use this one and not that one or this and that it’s confusing

Honestly, I don't have any boys, but my mom potty trained my 3 year old more. You didn't fail him. I just believe it is hard to potty train, especially if you're doing it by yourself.

Every kid is different. As long as they learn before starting school you’re good. My first born learned at 4, one twin started at 2.5 and the other twin at 4 ( 2 weeks before starting VPK) 🤣

I feel your pain. My almost 3 year old daughter refuses to sit on a potty for long enough to do any in a potty. She also refuses to say when she need to do a wee or poo and will lie to you if you ask. I'm lost in the whole process too and really need help 😥

my mom potty trained my oldest so I feel you on that lol

You guys are all amazing mamas ! Thank you for sharing and feeling this milestone with me we got this 😫

Is there any older friends/cousins he could see? We had success when our daughter was with her cousins, about a 8monyhs older, as they were all hanging out in the bathroom and helping each other on it 🤣 was weird but I think seeing kids her own age do it without complaining helped a lot

@Lola, we definitely do. I'm happy I found this app because it's women all around that go through the same or similar things even worse, and we can give advice without judgment.

My daughter will be 3 in a few weeks and I feel like a failure because we haven’t even started potty training yet 🤦🏽‍♀️. I really don’t know where to start

My second kid was "potty trained" at 3 but still wet and some times pooped his pants all the way up to 5 or 6 then finally grew out of it

I love this answer define “potty trained” what does that exactly mean like they can say they wanna pee and poop and do all the time or what ? How do I know if I’ve been successful? I feel like so many people in my life have different standards of what fully potty trained means

He was no longer wearing diapers and just in normal underwear but like once a week or so would have accidents

how did you do it for outings at first did you have him in a pull up or straight underwear

I had a portable potty as in a miny training type he used most the time till he got used to a normal one

And had him in pullups from time he could walk about 1.5 till the 3 mark then went to underwear cause they can't feel when wet in a pullups so had to get rid of them to really get him to go on potty

But I still use pullups on other kids like my almost 6 year old that is autistic and only half way potty trained where he will pee in potty at home or on toilet in public but doesn't let me know when he needs to so still goes through 2 pullups a day one during day and one at night unless he poops then that gets changed right away

And my almost 5 year old girl still wears pullups at night cause she wets the bed but is good all day

Haha I am soon to have 6 kids so feel free to ask all the questions hahaha 🤣

1st off your not failing, potty training is tough, all they know at this point is how to go in their pants at any time. Stay consistent and calm. I am in the process of my 2nd child’s potty training after a month we are finally pooping in the toilet 🙌🏼 don’t go back to the diapers or pull ups it just makes it harder when u want to try again.

Instead try a potty timer ⏱️ set it on your phone or watch the clock start off with 30 mins intervals if they are doing well with that than move to 45 mins than an hour so on and so forth till you get up to 2 hours. After your 3 day entraining is up start off with small trip that take less than a hour, take him potty before you leave and than right after. Peeing in the big potty’s at stores and such will come hang in there. Also set up a reward system whether it’s stickers or m&m’s give him something when he goes. And make the public potty an even bigger treat. lol 😂 I also do a potty dance and make him feel super special and proud of himself

amazing thank you ! He can hold it for about 2 hours but my struggle is he won’t tell me he’s gotta go he’ll just take himself to the toilet and sit on it which is great but the other times he won’t if he’s playing he’ll just pee

I used the “oh crap! Potty training” book. She advised taking bottoms off completely at first. And start with small outing once you do pants. We did no diapers at all unless sleeping. No underwear either since it can hit the same pressure points as a diaper and make them feel like they can just go. So just loose pants or no pants.
I had my son follow me to the bathroom every time I had to. He hated being prompted but would copy me if I peed. So I did a lot of fake peeing lol. And made it really exciting when he went. If there was an accident we just said. “Pee/poop goes in the potty”. Once I picked up on his potty dance I’d say “looks like you have to go potty, let’s try”. We didn’t do rewards but we’d delay normal things like “okay once we use the potty we can watch a show/play”. I regretting all my life decisions for like 5 days when we started and then it all clicked and it’s been good for over a year now lol.

that's what my mom said to do but we have rugs. Wouldn't accidents ruin the rug? I don't have a carpet cleaner

I’d just roll up the rugs during this phase. If you watch them like a hawk you can catch them in the act and bring the to the potty quick so they start putting it together. Granted mine was younger so he was easy to move around. I think it can still be done with using pull-ups or diapers it just might take more time if you don’t want to risk the rugs! Or try to be outside if you can. I’m be also heard people have luck with undies inside a pull-up so they feel the wetness but the mess is contained. I’ve just never tried that.
Also, if you’re using a little potty, if you add water BEFORE you dump a poo in the toilet it helps it release much much cleaner.

I swear they have FOMO for real!!! Thank God for his older brother we do potty breaks and of course it’s always a race my older son always lets him win now but man toddlers are so tough sometimes

Keep taking him to the bathroom at the times he tends to poop and read a book on the toilet. Bring a small potty for outings. Be consistent, he'll get there.
Mine pooped right away but took 3 months to stop having accidents with the pee.

I'm sure everyone has said it but your son sounds very on track & ready for undies. If he can use the potty I'd throw I'm in undies. Only a pull-up for nap & bed. Yes he will have accidents but he will also realize how to withhold & use the potty mainly

Pick up stickers and stamps for his hands ❤️ it starts day 1-2 with stamps for trying the potty every 2 hours. A sticker if he uses the potty.

Day 4 he gets a super special prize if he uses the potty all day.

I'm a preschool teacher & this is the most effective when a child like yours, is showing they are ready & need that extra push. You got this. He's got this I just got one out of pullups Tuesday who is almost 4

thank you !! I’m going to try this

my daughter is 3 and half and has been potty trained for a month now she is great going wee no accidents, we went straight into knickers and if she had an accident oh well just cleaned her up and changed her. I used to ask her every 15 minutes if she needed to go, she now just goes to potty when needed, poo is still an issue she asks for a nappy to poo in but soon as she's done wants knickers back on. Can take time and consistency, fingers crossed for you xx