What is wrong with me?

During my pregnancy I would cry a lot more, get mad at things or frustrated more easily, forget what I am doing more often then usual, lose concern fast and get worried or scared more often then before my pregnancy which I am pretty sure is normal.

It’s been about 18 months since having my son and none of this has gone away.

Example of more scared: I used to love thunderstorms and lightning but now I cry when it comes to them.

Example of frustration: I used to be calm and yeah I would get frustrated sometimes but now I quite literally snap at anything that I don’t like or just any small thing that annoys me.

Example of loose concentration: I know this sounds normal and it probably is but I completely lose any type of focus. Like right now I was just typing this and I completely lost my train of thought and forgot what I was doing.

There are so many more examples I could probably give but I honestly can’t think at the moment. Can anyone explain to me why my personality hasn’t even kind of went back to what it used to be?

Some of my personality stayed obviously like I am still a kind hearted person that couldn’t imagine seeing any human or animal hurt but there are times I think about wanting to throw someone across the room but I would never do that because I love everyone and everything.

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I'd say "mom brain"
Pregnancy changes us and "going back to normal" in my experience, is a fallacy. Will it be like this forever? No, but we won't be who we where before baby.
If you're concerned, speak to your Healthcare professional or perhaps a therapist. They can certainly offer help. You could be suffering from post partum anxiety/depression.

thank you, I just hate feeling like this. I hate being mad at people or yelling at people but I just snap and thats one of my biggest problems lately. I wasn’t sure if it was due to my situation with my babies father or my pregnancy or maybe even both. It just has been stressing me out.

big hug to you.
I suffer from post partum depression - with the majority of my symptoms being rage. The rage is horrible. I LOVE my boys. I have always wanted to be a mother and here I am trying not to loose my absolute shit when they cry. Like WTF? That's what babies do. That's how they communicate. They're not doing anything "on purpose" and I KNOW this, but the rage stayed.
I spoke to my doctor who prescribed me zoloft. That helped for a bit, but I felt I needed more mental support so I'm currently seeing a psychiatrist and a therapist. It's been a long and exhaustive journey but 100% worth it. My boys deserve it, I deserve it.

I’m about to have my 5th baby, and things change after each one. My ocd gets worse, my anxiety gets worse, and my anger gets worse. I find ways to cope and deal with it, but it’s never “normal”. And most of the time, it’s because my hormones are out of whack. It can take years for your body to regulate after having a baby, so it’s entirely possible that’s the case for you.
Look into getting your hormones checked and go from there.🖤

It’s definitely normal, sometimes people bounce right back and there is the ones that never are the same. Personally I like the changes as it made me more alert but to each their own. ALSO you have my snap if you need someone to talk to🫶

omg you’re on this app, ahhh I love youuu!!

I love you too girl, I’m for real tho lol hit me up

I gotchu, I will probably give you a call tomorrow!

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