Big vent- need advice 25 weeks pregnant

Ok sense u have talked to him about it now just throw what ever away and clean how u want to and take ur time and tell him sense his animals isn't trained and he won't do it then get rid of them to a good home or shelter and he can take the trash out at least because wen that baby comes that's what ur gonna be focused on like he can help u around the house but he just don't want to and I know that ur still gonna take care of ur baby regardless and love her and everything so tell him to choose the animals and mess or u and ur baby

I'm just blunt and if u want I can write a message for u to copy and send to him because I know just what to say girl

I'm 20 weeks and feeling the pressure too to get the house ready. We have a big house with similar piles of mess all over. I spoke to my psychologist this week about how it all feels out of control and she did point out that yes baby will be here before we know it, but will not be up and crawling for some time and that we've still got time to baby proof the house. Your baby's room looks like the essentials are already set up which is great! Maybe you could focus on getting just that one room baby ready for now. Maybe no pets allowed in there. With clutter around the house, could you box it up and then support your partner to sort through it by doing it together? I'm not saying to baby him if he's just being a bit lazy, but if he's genuinely having some struggles to get through it himself then you could try to make it a fun activity to do together, maybe set a weekly sorting clutter date and chat and eat some snacks at the same time.

Hi mama ! Hang in there don’t stress please please enjoy ur pregnancy even if the world is going down…
I say week 1 start with ur bedroom that is ur zen place . Always keep the bedroom clean. Give the bathroom to him make that his room to always clean . If u can give him another room do so.
Week 2 deep clean kitchen
Week 3 dinning and living room
Week 4 guest room etc…
In one month u have organized and deep cleaned ur whole house without overwhelming urself.
Once u are on track with ur house u can leave deep cleaning 1 weekend per month rule…

When it comes to pets I say try to give them to friends or family or foster for a few months until baby is older… u don’t want more stress or baby to get sick..
and for decluttering just separate them by what u like them bag them and put them I. Car , patio, or garage somewhere not in ur house…
Clutter brings stress… u should at least hide it so u don’t see it lol

Give him a deadline, he needs to sort through the clutter by X date and if he hasn’t you will and you’ll be ruthless and then follow through. Pick a room that’s off limits for clutter and animals, can be bedroom nursery office whichever but that’s your room and you can keep it call and clear.
Cats: cats are trained by their mothers at a couple of weeks old how to use a litter tray, if he’s going out of the tray something is wrong either health or environment. Generally they don’t like to share trays, the other cat or dogs could be scaring him, he might need some interactive toys to keep him entertained, try one of those pheromone plugins to see if that helps and if not a trip to the vet. Going outside the litter tray is their way of telling you something is wrong.
Dogs: Ooph you picked big dogs! (I have Dobermans so I’m with you!) but those breeds should be easily trainable if you establish yourself as alpha and don’t let them get away with too much….⬇️

When my boy was about 2 he became such a handful, so willful, wouldn’t listen, knew all the commands but would just look at you like he was giving you the finger 🙄 after about 6 months I lost my shit at my partner (he’d promised me a perfectly trained dog when I agreed he could get him) and researched places he could be sent for intensive training over a month or so to come back to us trained, they were anywhere between £4000-£9000 and I took that to my partner and told him if he didn’t make time to train him he would come home one day and he wouldn’t be here and this was how much I would charge to his card.
Big dogs not only need training for us to be able to manage them but also for their mental stimulation, they genuinely enjoy it.
I hope you manage to get through to him before the baby comes, he needs to take some responsibility for these animals otherwise i dread to think how little responsibility he’s going to take of a child xx

Thank you everyone. This helps so much you have no idea. I talked to hubby via text, we did t have much time before he left for work but he’s going to help me declutter on his next day off and said he’ll be very conscious of any messes or trash he makes so I’m not feeling like I’m trailing behind cleaning up after him. He understands I run the house and he hasn’t been as appreciated as he should which meant a lot to me.

Thanks again for the advice. I’m an over thinker and my anxiety gets the best of me.

Intervention! Get the immediate family/close friends involved because nothing reflects better than how others see him along with yourself. You can't be around the litter at all! He needs to grow up and you are not equipped to do more than support as you have been. I'll keep y'all in my prayers too.