Partners calling your friend attractive

Just want to say ur feelings ate valid. I don't consider myself to be insecure but (I haven't given birth yet) so maybe thall change. However insecure or not that comment would have absolutely bothered me. I understand we're humans and is unrealistic to expect our partners not to look or find others attractive buuuut u still have to be respectful and tactful with what you say. Like
......I don't wanna hear so and so is a baddy🤨 even if yiu think so I rather u take it to the grave especially if is someone we hang out with. The only way u can get away with it is if it's an unattainable celebrity lol maybe yiu can have this conversation with him and let him know how u feel.

Depending how combative vs supportive your partner is, it might be worth telling him that the post partum time is a very vulnerable place for most women and although you may normally not be as insecure as your feeling right now, that his compliments about other women who by the way have not just grown and pushed out a baby are… not helpful to regaining your confidence in your own skin. it might not hurt to remind him and yourself what a baddie you are for literally making and birthing a whole person. Been there girl. My body is not the same as it was but things continue to heal as time goes on. Give yourself some grace you are so freshly post partum. 💕

Couldn’t have said it better ^^^ communication is key

You have every right to feel like that mama. It can be hard to accept our new bodies after a baby, so I would be upset if my partner said that about a friend of mine. Just try to remember that your body was home to a beautiful little human for several months! 🩷🩷 Maybe try talking to him and telling him how you feel about him saying that?

But also please be kind to yourself. YOU are way more of a baddie than you are giving yourself credit. Look at your little one and remind yourself that YOU GREW that. Your body is amazing and with time you will love it. Confidence is key, fake it till you believe it. How you carry yourself is everything. I’m sending you so much love and healing in this phase of your life! 🩵

If my fiance ever called any of my friends “baddies” he would be single. I’m sorry but that’s the absolute most disrespectful thing to say to your spouse. It’s rude and uncalled for/ your feelings are valid an I swear men make us women feel insecure over stupid shit they say !! I’ve had exs who were awful like that luckily I am older have a wonderful man and family but girl know your worth you ate beautiful you carried life no man can top that !!! Maybe leave your friend behind she doesn’t sound like a good friend to start work

I Can really understand this. I try my best to be confident, but there are little things that can really get to me, and this would be one of them!! We are comfortable to say “oh, this famous person is pretty attractive!” Like, people we would never ever actually meet. If my husband said. Wow your friend is effing hot, I’d be… livid. It’d make me view that friendship in a different light forever I think. But remember you are the mother of his child (if I’m right on that anyway, I’m just assuming! Forgive me if I’m incorrect) and he’s also with YOU! Have a heart to heart and tell him how it made you feel. It may help bring y’all closer. I haven’t given birth yet, so I’m interested in seeing how my body will change, but it’s just part of the territory. It’s the “new chapter” body. Things will tighten back up, reshape, and you can always gain muscle! Comparing ourselves to others is a big waste of time, energy and feelings. We all bring something different to the table.

But I get it— it’s a sensitive time! Allow yourself to love and accept you as you are, and as you grow. What you’re feeling is totally valid and I honestly think as a new mom, it’s normal.

I am so sorry and your feelings are super valid! Besides everything all the mamas said above, I just wanted to ask you if you think is healthy to have a friendship where you are always comparing yourself and competing?! Do you think overall this friendship brings you joy, peace, love, etc? Sometimes it is good to make sure who is around you makes you feel good. Some friendships comes and others goes depending on the stage we are in life. Idk I just got caught with the fact the besides the hubby thing l, this friendship might not be a good thing for you either?! Not sure. Maybe you can reflect on it as well?! Sending lots of love!

Adding to the friend thing. It might be worth it to have a conversation with your friend about this as well, not just your partner (based on your relationship with her- I'm not sure what's best for you two). If you can tell her how you're feeling and ask her to help hype you up sometimes when you need it, especially right now. If you have just given birth and she has not then there is no comparison between you. Not because she won or your body is now lesser, but because your body has just faced a much harder battle and beaten that one. It takes time but you can reclaim your body, either by working to get back to where you once were, or by learning to love how you are now knowing that every new part of your body is a beautiful battle scar. And honestly I think the second option is harder. You are beautiful! Surround yourself with people who make you feel that way!

(Also, if you are feeling up to it I suggest a boudoir shoot. If your partner has a good enough eye they can always take the pictures for you so you can see just how beautiful you are in their eyes or you could have a different friend do it or a professional. I have seen plenty of videos on tiktok of professionals showing how to do different poses so you can do it yourself at home. Sending you lots of love)

Love your perspective 💜💜