Help me decide to have a second baby

You don’t want us to help you decide, you want us to change your mind, which you’ve already made up. Do what your gut is telling you to do. If it’s not the right time, it’s not the right time.

Personally as she's gotten older it's seemed more realistic I have an 19 month old and wanna try for a 2nd soon so I'd think about it in 6 months again

I'm due in October with my second baby, we wanted more then just 1 together so even though that was the plan I too contemplated whether I should or not.. my daughter is the exact same. Full of energy and life, sleeps from 10-7:30 and then has a 1½ hour nap sometime during the day.. plus she still wakes up in the middle of the night atleast 1 time. We started trying when my daughter was 6m old because it took us 6 years to conceive her and we Anticipated it taking a bit so started early.. however I only got my period back 2 times before I got pregnant again so we will have 2 under 2 😅

Maybe revisit it when he's a bit older depending on how big an age gap you want.

We have 10 years between our oldest and soon to be middle and then middle and baby are going to be 22m apart and oldest and youngest will be 11 years apart.

If you have them closer together then you don't need to get rid of the baby stuff. And they play together so you don't have to be as occupied with them. But you might need to consider this on a bit more sleep. Because you might be burnt out at the moment. If you found out you were pregnant right now would you be happy or not is the question.

Think its about when you feel ready and it sounds like your not yet. I wasn't after my first took me a few years but I was single so didn't happen.
Met my partner and we now have another daughter who's 10 months and we're trying for baby number 3.
Mainly we have everything we need, want them close together, and I'm getting older. This time though I was ready as soon as she was born for the next one.

Like some others have said, give it time. Put the idea on the back burner until it’s closer to when you would actually start trying around when baby is 18 months old. If you’re still not ready, set another goal date to retouch the subject.

I am in the same situation but baby is 5 months old and sleeps like a champ still. I try not to think about another baby and let the thought simmer and process in my subconscious. Try to enjoy baby now without the dread of having another.

You decide. It’s up to you.
My son is 8
My daughter is 1

7 years between them. We suffered infertility and secondary infertility.
There’s never a perfect time in my eyes.
However it just works when you have them!
I love the age gap but for years I longed for another child. Now we have our two it’s wonderful.
I don’t think an age gap is a bad thing!
Wait until he’s older! Xx

Thanks everyone for the messages, some really encouraging ones! I have always thought they should be close age wise but maybe it's not such a bad idea if our son is a bit older before trying for baby no. 2.

@Lorreen this is a great idea to set a goal, maybe this way I can relax and enjoy rather than thinking about it constantly

We definitely want a second too but decided we are going to put about a two year age gap between them before we try again. Everyone is different so I say put some deep thought into what you're personally ready for and follow your heart.

Wait a little bit if you need to. We have been trying for months but I'm sure it hasn't happened because we needed more time with our first 🤷‍♀️🙏

Honestly I didn’t want a second until closer to my first being 18m. Now my kids are 2yr and 3m apart. We won’t even discuss a third before my youngest is 18m. Hes 11m now.

I have a 19 month old an currently 33 weeks pregnant what I will say in my opinion is wait till your lil one is at least a year im glad I did because I got to spend the newborn stage and almost the full first 2 years just him an focusing on him only he’ll me 20 months just shy of 2 when he meets his brother but he loves rubbing my belly and telling me baby baby baby n I say yes that’s u baby brother it’s also good to involve them in everything so they don’t feel left out there are pros and there are cons

Just tell him to wait till ur baby is at least potty trained or 4 or 5 years old

I had my second when my first was 2. It is preferable when the first can talk or at least say what they want.. even at 2 years different, it is exhausting but with kids, you have to welcome both expression of joy and exhaustion

My kids at 22m apart and we are trying for baby #3 to be about the same. There are pros and cons to keeping them close and spreading them out. I will also say from a family planning perspective I wanted to start trying for baby #2 when our 1st was 6m but emotionally I wasn't actually ready by 9m I couldn't get pregnant fast enough. Remember every kid is different and the challenges maybe doubled but the blessings are infinitely multiplied. Stop and think about how you imagine your family looking for your self and for your son. And don't let fear hols you back (though don't jeopardize your mental health pursuing a family) remember every phase is a season.

My husband wanted a second one around the time my daughter was two. I wasn’t ready and told him so. Waited another year to try to get pregnant. So they are almost 4 years apart.

Ahh, I don't recommend getting pregnant now. I've been "trying" for two years, tracking ovulation, even got on the pill for a few months (my fiancé knew) when my daughter was 1.
I THANK GOD that she just turned 3 and NOW I'm pregnant. I know for a fact that it's already hard with one baby, even though my daughter was a great baby! My mom had me and my sister 3.5 years apart, and she did that on purpose. My daughter will be 3 years and 8 months old when I have our second.

I told my fiance no flippin way do I want to be pregnant with a second before she's 1, you're supposed to wait a YEAR between pregnancies by the way.

Now that I'm pregnant it's hard b/c I love my daughter, love the quality time with her, I'm trying to soak in that time while being exhausted and nauseous.

Men don't decide, you decide when you're ready to start trying again. I got off birth control for the second time about four months ago by choice. He wanted twins, and was bummed to see one baby. Men dont get it

So no, I'm not going to convince you to get pregnant with a second baby already because it isn't what YOU want. Your husband will get over it like mine did; it's your body. He needs to respect all the hard work your body just did creating his son and then healing for two months after, not trying to get his seed in you again for another. ENJOY THE FIRST! Every family is different and not every woman wants baby after baby after baby. My mother in law had her first daughter at 20, her second daughter 7 years later, her first son six years after her, her second son (my partner) a year later, and her last son three years later.