MIL didn’t get me a Mother’s Day gift
I want to get opinions on this bc my mom always defends my MIL for some reason and my husband doesn’t care about anything. So every year for Mother’s Day or really any holiday I go above and beyond for her, if it wasn’t for me putting together gifts for her my husband would never even think to get her anything. This year from 2 weeks ago I’ve been buying stuff to put together a gift basket with body and skincare products, makeup, house stuff etc and I got her some balloons I attached to the basket. It was a super cute gift, I do stuff like this every year. This year is my first Mother’s Day and all I got was a text from her saying happy Mother’s Day and to kiss my son for her.. my brother in law got me flowers and gave them to me for Mother’s Day in front of them too and they still didn’t think to even get me anything. I don’t even care about getting a gift tbh it’s more so that I put in all this effort and they can’t even get me flowers or something? Also I gave her her gift days before Mother’s Day because we went out of town so she had multiple days to grab something. Idk I feel like I just shouldn’t get her shit from now on if that’s the energy I’m gonna receive and just say happy Mother’s Day from now on like she did but my husband seemed butthurt when I said that and said I think about these things too deeply. Opinions?
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i can understand your pain, because i used to feel this way before becoming a mother.
i’m a hard core empath, and one major thing i learned over the years is to stop expecting other people to show their love and affection the same way i do.
if i want to put effort into getting people a gift, great but im not going to expect it in return.
we are all living this life and walking this earth in our own way, and just because someone doesn’t show their love the same way, and to the amount that you do does not mean they don’t care about you. just means we live differently. and that’s absolutely ok.
I used to do things like this. After awhile i stopped. I dont go beyond for ppl now. I barely go beyond now for my husband. This was the first yr where i only bought him 2 things for xmas a sweatshirt n boots and this was his 2nd time buying me stuff unexpected (gap between the times). Same for my MIL. I buy her 1 or 2 gifts for xmas. Nothing for mothers day not even a card. Its tiring being there for people when their is no appreciation even in the slightest. I am a firm believer of u scratch my back i scratch yours
My mother in law said to my husband “oops I didn’t get Erinn a gift” then a few minutes later handed me some weird ass collage she made (she arts and crafts a lot) - nothing on the “collage” had anything to do with me. She didn’t put it together for me or have any intention to give it to me until she “realized” she didn’t get me anything. MIL’s can be ick. I’m never surprised by the disappointment they bring
everything she said!!! ⬆️
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