Help ladies

You are the baby’s mother. Be an advocate for him. Don’t be a doormat just bc that is his family. If my MIL did that I would’ve expressed my emotions very clearly & she will not do that again.

Idk what to say this stuff gets me mad, tell your husband to grow some balls and speak up for his WIFE. And tbh just set boundaries with your MIL yourSelf , if she dont like it then go home to your mums and dont return until something chnages

I feel like she gets a kick out my husband backing her when it comes to me! She feels like she can do anything just because I’m living under her roof!

Sorru shes got some underlying issues. But the baby is YOUR BABY not anyone elses. Put your foot down and no means no

she asked me this time if my son can sleep in her room I said no and she got really funny almost upset

You have to keep putting your foot down. Remind her you’re the mum and you want. To spend time with your baby, also why is she sleeping with him in her bed anyways thats not safe at all

because she also wants skin to skin …

Grandmother's don't do skin to skin. Please tell her that she is the grandmother, not the mother. If she wants to do skin to skin she can take her own son and sleep next to him!

His problem is that he doesn’t want any issues inconveniencing him. It is haram for your MIL to to walk into your room without your permission anyways. And he shouldn’t have moved you in with his parents.

Maybe try to talk to her about the skin to skin thing, she could be having all these emotions and very happy with the baby, maybe try to put your mind at ease when she has the baby like a time for yourself to relax somehow I promise in the next few months you will want this time on your own😊 Maybe get some sleep, bath soak or any other self care. The first months are the hardest if you find someone giving you a hand this should be a good thing❤️ All the best for you and your little one

I would start by offering baby to mil during the day if you’re not comfortable with her having baby during nights. This way you get a break during day to shower freshen up eat a hot meal.
Also explain to your husband you don’t want her having baby at night and you’ve offered days. This way everybody is happy

Also skin to skin? 😂🫣 I laughed I’m sorry

Sister, first of all, you have the right to a separate living space from your in laws in a Muslim marriage. I understand if perhaps finances are tight and you agreed to live with your in laws, but please know that you have these rights. These rights help protect you from situations like this

Secondly, this is completely inappropriate and your husband needs to say something. And if he can’t, you should. Your duty is to protect your child now. That means speaking up when you are uncomfortable with something. Taking your baby from you, their mother, and co-sleeping with them is incredibly dangerous. We know that babies should not co-sleep without their mothers. And co-sleeping with someone who is not a parent carries significant risks to rolling over and more.

Beyond that, his mother is not a “second mom” to your baby. She is a grandmother, with different responsibilities to a mother. You need to talk to your husband about how this is inappropriate and, frankly, un-Islamic.