Have you and your partner disagreed about having another baby? What happened?

Our first is now two years old. Prior to having kids, we both thought 2 kids would be a good number. My pregnancy was fine, but it's taken me a LONG time to recover physically from the delivery. So for these past 2 years I've been very unsure about having another. My husband has changed his mind to one-and-done basically immediately after the birth. The lack of sleep during year one was really hard for him. Recently, I've been thinking more and more about it and I think maybe in a years time I'd want to try for another one. My husband is still a firm no. This is not a deal breaker for me, I love him and my toddler WAY more than the "dream" of maybe having another. But just curious for anyone who themselves or their partner was a firm no, did they change their mind once enough time had passed and their baby was older?

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My husband waited 5 years until we started to have children. It was my decision when i was ready to have a baby and he was okay with it. My husband is ready for another baby. He complained to his mom about me not giving him another baby. I completely shut her down and told her is my body and when I'm ready I'll have another one. I completely told my husband if you can wait for our first son you can wait for another baby. I am the one who has sleepless nights and mentally and physically not ready. I want to have another baby forsure but as of now I'm not ready.

This sounds like me and my partner only he would have another in a heartbeat!
I didn’t have a straightforward birth and also took me a while to recover (still haven’t mentally)
I long to give my LO a sibling to grow up with but not enough to rush into having another.
I too , have mountains of pressure people are ALWAYS asking “so you having another?” “There’s such a gap between your 2 boys (10 year gap) essentially they are only children aren’t they” 🙄
I kept swaying between yes and no so I decided to sign up to do my nursing training! It’s important to me to have a career and I don’t want to regret putting it off.
Give yourself time, there’s no rush to have your kids close together it doesn’t guarantee anything other than hard work for you 🤣 xx

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