Toddler

Unfortunately mine does the exact same and is also 2 and 5 months. His done it for a while, especially when he wakes up from his nap but is getting way worse. My and my husband are going crazy as these days he screams for like half and hour and nothing will make him stop

I'm literacy sat iny toddlers bedroom now reading this as she did the exact same for 20mins and refuse to sleep. Now I can't leave the room until she passes out. Happens often. I get down on her level, ask why, explain softly what needs to happen. Negotiate to a degree and sometimes I just give in and do what she wants. Like now 😄 sitting in her room.. Hopefully they'll outgrow it soon.

I am wondering if there is anything that can be done about it. It drives me nuts when he starts to scream and nothing seems to calm him

so if you try negotiating and it just doesn’t work or if she screams for something not so healthy like having an iPad all day , how do you distract her or what do you do to ease the screaming ? I wish I can sort this behaviour

First of all, I remove her from the situation. Sometimes very heard because of the way the thrashed about. Or if I want her to sleep then I won't take her from her room. So if able to, remove from the situation into another room or space.
Then I sit with her and first ask why the tantrum they don't yet understand why tho. So then I explain why they had it before and now can't have it or do xyz at this moment and I explain when next she can do it or have it again. I may say something like tomorrow we can do it together or we can do it a little bit longer. I find now that they have more language they def understand dmore and part of the frustration is not understanding why it needs to end. I am also trying to educate myself on the following:

Sometime we just say no. And we stop or remove or end. We should really give them warning first. Like ok I will count slowly to 10 and then we are going to take the ipad away. You may also wnat to give a few warning. They don't have concept of time but I may say

You have 5more minutes. Then later 2 more minutes.
And then when I count to ten we will be finished. That way the end and No is not so abrupt and they know what is coming.

Also NO is a big emotion word for them now.

So instead of saying No I try and say... Are you sure you wnat to be doing that right now.... Please can you not do that right now because it is hurting me. Is that the best or wise decision, don't you think that can be dangerous? Hhhmmm let's think about this before you continue what you are doing.


I try my best to 1. Come down to her level.
2. Explain explain explain.

It doesn't always happen and sometimes I lose my cool but I try nd remind myself that she is only little and don't know yet how to cope. She needs a why. That's also why, whwn they get to age 3 or 4 and understand the concept of why they will constantly ask why why why why... They need things explained... To understand. To make snese of the World.

Hope this helps. I am not expert but screaming at her hasn't helped and it

It doesn't make you feel good either so I try and calm myself. Sometimes she keeps screaming and I'll just calmly sit next to her until she's stopped and then I'll tell her to come sit on my lap and we talk about it. X

It sounds like @Ghitta is doing a much better job than I am. My son is super strong willed and sometimes explaining will work but most of the time it won't, when we have nap tantrums I've said before we go to sleep and then the park and that's worked a couple of times but not so often. I definitely agree we shouldn't shout or get angry ourselves but it's very difficult after you've had a toddler screaming in your ear for half an hour x

I also bought a stand with stickies, recommended to me by a montesorri school..
You plan out the day by sticking everything you'll do that day on the planner.
E. G. Wake up, change nappy, breakfast, brush teeth, get dressed, travel by train, go to park, come back by train, wash hands, lunch, nap etc etc...
And so we plan daily and as we do something, we take a sticky down and put it in an envelope. That way she knows the plan for the day, sometimes plan herself what she'd like to do, and also know when it is lunch or nap or bath time etc..

@Ghitta that sounds lovely. Where from?

I actually just bought it off Shein. It looks much bigger than it is tho but it still works I'll try and find the link.
I bought extra stickies as it didn't had all the options in that 1 pack that I wanted but you could also create your own.

https://share.temu.com/Y7LnEt5BYGA

Bought from. TEMU I see.

And extra cards.
https://share.temu.com/5T5veoPgoAA

Thanks so much @Ghitta

Pleasure.

I had this 👀 mine is through because she wanted more independence! Now we let her try everything & it’s calmed down since . So she’ll pick her own food etc . She still kicks off but I’ll let her have it out & then we have a hug & that seems to work for us x

I love the idea of a visual schedule. It looks like it will be very helpful and guide a child through their day . Getting mine now . I will be trying it out along with your other tips . Hoping it works for me . Fingers crossed x

I have cried a few times when I have had to shout so he stops screaming but I then end up crying feeling so lost on how to help him . This prompted my post as he had started another tantrum earlier today . Hopefully ‘s tips works . I never thought toddlers can be a handful but I am positive this tips will work out

My daughter was doing this for weeks, it was so bad I was having breakdowns🫠
But I changed a few things and it was a 180 on her personality.
I never believed food could be a factor but unhealthy foods plays a major role because if their gut health isn't good it affects everything even their nervous system. They don't know how to self regulate so we have to help them.
I cut out TV completely (cold turkey) was hard for two days but surprisingly got so easy I started to question why I ever let her have TV to begin with 😅
I started setting up activities/games in the day rather than all day free play(they get bored).
I also realised she was just mirroring me, I was always stressed and anxious because of her tantrums but when I self regulated and was calmer about things, she became calmer.
Another thing I do is tell my daughter to 'use her words' or I can't understand her. Usually they won't want to so instead I offer her a hug and kiss and she always says yes and calms down.

My pleasure. B

Then she usually tells me what she wants and I avoid saying no by changing the subject and asking her questions, asking her to find something for me or telling her to repeat affirmations (I'm strong, I'm kind, I'm loving etc)
All of these together and the tantrums have stopped. Within 3 days the transformation was amazing!

For diets look into the gaps diet. It's only healthy food that improves gut health and can also help with so many other things

@Lin Definitely agree with your comments about gut health 👍 and TV. Was wondering what kind of activities do you do with her?

I have so many different ones, sometimes we just play (tea party, dolls, dress up)
More focused activities are drawing/painting. Trying to work on motor skills, so threading beads. More educational activities, flash cards, addition games(she loves this, I have never pushed it on her), phonics (again she shows so much interest), puzzles. I have a whole box of educational bits, I only take it out if she asks for it (which seems to be a lot)😅