Issues at school

I feel at a loss. Feeling like I'm failing. My husband, son and I have adhd. My son (7) is having issues at school. He has had multiple crying nights over a boy (f)that use to be his friend. Boy f has called my son a loser and has told him thathe didnt come to his party because he knew it would be boring. Like any ADHDer he has been thinkibg about it a lot. I told him to play with other kids since boy f has said he doesnt want to play with him.
That I got a call Friday that he was found curled up under playground equipment crying because another boy F kicked him in his privates. Boy f kicked my son because my son threatened to bring a knife. The principal is concerned that boy f is leaving my son out and it's causing a change in my son.
Then today an email that my son did a gun symbol with his fingers. After talking to my son today he admitted that boy f has been punching him almost daily.
The principal wants to have a meeting. I have reached out to my pediatrician and have an appointment next week for a therapy referral. But I'm at a loss of this aggressive behavior and feel like I'm failing. We are planning to mention, what we feel like is bullying to the principal. Idk if we need to start him on meds. I'm just lost. 😭 the principal and everyone around him is shocked about this. I understand that rejection sensitivity dysphoria makes hid more hurt by everything and his emotional regulation has issues ( he have given him lots of tools and reminders on dealing with feeling since being a toddler) but this seem like so big. I know adhd can come with aggression but this is super overwhelming.

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Ouch.

That’s tough. Bullying is such a hard thing for kids to go through. I’m all for kids standing up for themselves, but guns and knives are too far!
I think maybe he doesn’t understand the gravity of what he is saying and emulating? I would have a talk with him and make sure he understands that when he threatens with a knife or a gun symbol, thats basically him saying “I want to kill you”.
Kids see things all over tv and the internet and copy it without realizing what they’re actually saying. Maybe you could even show him a YouTube video of families talking about losing a child to gun violence. Really put some weight behind that so he understands how devastating that would be, and there are better options for dealing with bullying.

I agree that therapy would be a big help for him, so good for you for getting the therapy referral in the works!
Definitely mention the bullying to the principal. Boy F needs to be held accountable for his actions and learn from his mistakes too!!

From a few of the talked I have had from him. A lot of these behaviors are ones he is learning from boy f

I would absolutely bring that up in the meeting. Do you know boy F’s parents? Maybe talking to them about the issues could be helpful too?

Boy f's mom was a high school teacher where I went to school. She told me at a previous kids party that her kids tend to have behavioral issues at school. We were just opennibgkt talking about how my son recently got diagnosed and she told me. I don't really have contact information for her though. I am not a high school teacher at a different school.

in our community

Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Water

My LO is 10 months old and I try and offer him water with meals but he will only take a couple of sips. I’ve tried adding freshly made apple juice to sweeten it a bit, in case this would entice him, but he still refused. I think if it’s not milk, he doesn’t want it, or it’s odd to him.

Any tips?

Married couples…who handles car maintenance in your household?

Oil changes, tune ups, tires, car washing/vacuuming, etc

Ughhh

I am so overwhelmed!! My baby isn’t sleeping and I’ve got a raging headache and all this legal stuff is making me feel irritated and I just want to cry.
I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds

I really hate to come out here and tell my business about what’s going on with my life in my kids, but I had no choice

I just came back from a parent teachers conference meeting and they telling me that my second daughter, who just turned eight about a week ago that she barely know how to read and she has speech problems… I already feel like shit because it’s not that I’m doing my job. It’s because I worked a lot, and and every time, me and my first oldest daughter, trying to teach you how to read, she gets insecure and thinking that we making fun of her, but we’re not!! I felt like a shitty mother I don’t know what to do.