So Overwhelmed

29 weeks pregnant and feel I've spent most of today in tears.

I just feel like I've got so much to get done, and I can't keep on top of it all.
Husbands been working a lot and shattered when he gets in, so I've been trying to get the nursery all decorated while he's away. Mentally, I feel like I can get it all done but my body is letting me down, and I'm getting so frustrated... I've also got a horrible cold, which isn't helping things, and I feel guilty that I'm so focused on trying to get the nursery sorted that the rest of the housework I'd getting left.
I wouldn't feel so bad if I was making progress on the room, but I'm just so slow and get so exhausted from the smallest thing now.
I'm so overwhelmed with the amount of things needing done, and I can't keep up with it all.

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Stop. Have a cup of tea. Have a sit down. Take a deep breath.

It will get done. You are working slower than usual, yes. That’s because you are growing a whole-ass person inside you. Be kind to your body - it’s doing a lot right now - and take breaks as you go. It will get done.

Why are you stressing yourself out so much to get a nursery done when realistically the baby won’t be in it for the first 6 months? You’ve also still got like 11 weeks till baby is due!

Rest, wait till you’ve got some more energy and take it slowly! Enjoy it, you won’t ever get to decorate this baby’s nursery again!

Also, are there any family members you could rope in to help? xx

I know how you feel, I am
26 weeks and we are just about to get a loft conversion done 😂 think we are crazy, the whole loft contents are in and around the house- it will take 6-8 weeks so we are not actually starting the nursery until I’m 32-34 weeks, so I hope that makes you feel better! I’m just letting my fiancée deal with everything for now and trying to keep calm! You’ve got plenty of time :)

You’re growing a human.
You’ve got 11 weeks.
If you over do yourself it can cause you more stress and discomfort.
The housework can honestly wait sometimes until the next morning bc it’ll still get done.
I know your husband is also working, so is mine, he understands that you’re pregnant.

Take a seat. Babies nursery can always be finished after they’re born.
Just have a minute for yourself.

I would worry about the nursery take time and relax as much as possible. You can’t keep on top of it all. You are heavily pregnant.

My partner worked every day 6am -10pm before we had our first was born up until my waters broke. He couldn’t do much at all.

I found that i get lots of energy towards the end of the pregnancy baby should be in the same room as you for the first 6 months we did babies room after the baby was born and I was also able to do more. I also got a better idea of how I wanted and needed to use the space once the baby was here.

Nonetheless it is stressful as you just want to be as prepared as possible, I’m sure if it was done it would take a lot off your mind.

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