Breastfeeding

So all the way through my pregnancy I said I wanted to breastfeed.

Bought everything to do it, breast pumps and all so I could express, then when baby was born, shes now 2 weeks old, we found out she's tongue tied and she can't latch because her tongue is too short.

Anyway we switched to bottle feeding as it was easier for her and ever since my mother in law has been on at me to speak to someone about trying to breastfeed the baby after she's had her tongue snipped.

Its getting me so down as I feel like I'm bring pressured in to it as if it's something I have to do. I'll be honest I'm not very good at expressing as I don't do it regularly as I just don't find the time so this makes me feel worse. My anxiety is all ready all over place and I just don't know what to do.

Just feel so useless about it all.

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I'm in the same situation just that my supply is low but my mother in law is pain she's on the top of me ever since

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She don't live with me

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Honestly resolving our daughter’s tongue tie was the best thing we ever did. Pumping sucks, it was great being able to nurse and not wash bottles or pump parts. It’s way less work and it’s better for the baby. If you want to exclusively give breastmilk it’s definitely worth it. Tongue ties can affect them for life in so many different ways if you don’t get it resolved unfortunately. We were very scared of speech delays and her having general discomfort so we got it taken care of and then we were able to nurse

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@Casey she's on the waiting list to have it done. Was told we'd hear back a few days later but it's been 2 weeks and haven't heard anything. It's not that I don't want to breastfeed, because I do, I was adamant I was going to. But it's like my mother in law doesn't understand that right now I physically cannot do it, she asks me all the time if I am still trying and it just feels like I'm not trying enough or not doing a good enough job.

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@sarita mine doesn't live with me either, and my supply isn't very good either. Makes me feel incompetent and not doing enough.

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thank you so much for your support. X

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Oh ya that is not your fault!

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Do what you want. Bf or bottle or formula, is your child and your body. You should be the one who decides. Good luck

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My mom is the same way tbh I just don’t listen to her. I still pump n giver breastmilk during the day time n during the night I do formula. I do try to make her latch on I can have supply still coming in.

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