Toddler hitting???

I’m honestly in complete shock right now… last night when I said no to my daughter when she trying to play when I was putting her down for bed, she hit me when she was upset for not letting her play. I thought it was just a one off thing but I did tell her off and explained how hitting is not nice and that she hurt mummy. And we said sorry.

Today I told her to not play in the recycling and she got upset and hit me again. I’m at complete lost because we don’t do that sort of thing in our house and am concerned this is going to become a habit.

How to I put a stop to her hitting? I understand she’s still young and learning but I really want to stop this habit before she hits another child or even another grown up.

(Please don’t say hit her back… we don’t believe to physically punishment)

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Following…this sounds like my little demon!! 🤦🏻‍♀️

I can call myself abused by the amount of time my son hit me. I think its just a phase and important is to keep calm and explain its not nice, its hurting mummy etc. Saying this when i do explain he hits me harder and start laughing. My understanding is that they dont know they cause pain. Its just a way to express their frustration.

We use the word gentle and demonstrate eg rubbing our arm “gentle” it’s hard to manage those emotions when frustrated though so might take a bit of time.

My son is being doing this since the moment he turned 12 months 😭 he is 17 now. When we say gentle and kisses he does go gentle and kiss us has taken at least a month for him to learn, however stills when he gets frustrated he does still hit us and bit us xx

They are young and they are learning how to control their emotions 💙

I say gentle hands and model that for him (this started with stroking the cat so he knows what it means now) my son has also started hitting and grabbing my face when he's annoyed aswell so I'm guessing it's normal for this age.

It's normal lovely, they're dealing with big emotions they don't understand and need to learn to handle and lack of communication over all all contributes. They're in a really tricky between baby and child stage so it's expected and typical unfortunately.

Stay calm, model gentle even when not in the moment to help positively reinforce the behaviour and go from there, it will stop but may ebb and flow for a long while yet sadly xx

Very normal for them to get aggressive at times. Just keep responding calmly and demonstrating “kind hands”. I would hold her hand in mine and stroke my face. Now when she hits or she’s about to hit and I say “kind hands”, she strokes my face instead

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