Husband wrapped hand around my neck

No I would not forgive this. This won’t be the last time. This will escalate. Parenting is extremely stressful but the logic here is totally unreasonable and the reaction completely unacceptable. This will only get worse particularly with his mum in his ear. I am so sorry you’re in this situation. Start doing what u can to work towards leaving but don’t let him know yet. If anything else happens you can consider seeking help from a women’s centre or shelter. Or even do so now if you feel comfortable. Strangulation in particular is taken very seriously. I’m sorry again.

Do not forgive that child and he’s not a man because men do not put their hands on women you need to leave you and your baby need to leave now. It is not going to get better at all.

You need to seek help from a charity or a shelter. You need to leave right now, I don't care how stressful being a parent is to him. He's a piece of shit and shouldn't of put his hands on you!!! Please please try even calling local authorities for advice.. I'm so sorry he did this to you..

LEAVE HIM!! Massive red flag, once done, and forgiven. It will continue

You have to understand that the problem it’s not your MIL , it’s your husband that doesn’t respect you at all so both shares same disrespectful thoughts against you and don’t value you. I always heard that once gets physical it’s just downhill, he apologised but will you wait for the next ?! You are a mother, raising a child is the most difficult task in the world, it’s always under pressure with a tiny one screaming at your year, studies proves that’s the same job as a soldier in war. You have to feed, wash, entertain, there’s no time for you at all. He should put you on the top priorities of his life. I’d look for government help and just leave him , life is too short to feel miserable with someone else that doesn’t worth and doesn’t value you

That is domestic violence and I would take that as a threat on your life. Putting hands on a partner’s neck has a high statistical chance of turning into strangulation and homicide. You absolutely need to get out and contact the police and a lawyer. If he’s willing to put his hands on your throat over a toddler vomiting, imagine what he would do over something bigger. I’m so sorry, that is awful. Please feel free to reach out if you need any assistance or support ❤️

Divorce. It only gets worse. Especially if you stay after that, he'll think he ca. Get away with more

I would have walked out with my babies then and there. I’d go and stay at your mums and leave him. Once it starts it won’t stop he will think sorry will get him out of it all the time

sounds like a giant toddler to me, puts his hands on you, blames you, listens to his mommy and lives with his mommy. yeah there’s no coming back from this. it’s only gonna get worse

I would leave quietly and immediately with my child. He has now made that home an unsafe environment for you and your child. Document everything. I hope you have a good support network of family and friends. If not, there are a lot of resources out there for victims of domestic violence (assuming you’re US based). Please feel free to send me a pm if you need help in navigating that. And shame on MIL for baiting him when I’m sure she has sensed tension building

From my experience, definitely don’t forgive him as you’ve then set the bar as that’s something you will accept and he will continue, I’ve experienced similar behaviour and it did continue and I then had to leave. You think they might never do it again but they deffo will. Sounds like narcissistic abuse mixed in with domestic violence.

No I would not forgive or forget. What you accept is how you’ll daughter will let herself be treated. Please get somewhere safe 🙏🏼

No, it will only continue can speak from experience leave before your seriously hurt

He’s putting his hands on you please do not accept this behavior!! Especially for your little girl to grow up watching this toxic behavior.

Please, please report this to the police and seek help from a charity or shelter. This behaviour tends to escalate, this is domestic violence. You need to get away from this man for your safety and for the safety of your child.

Parenting can be difficult but no reason for a man to put his hands on you and if he does that cause of stress I can only imagine when he gets mad

As soon who witnessed this behavior growing up, it won’t just be you he is hitting your toddler will be next.

You need to leave omg. I’m so sorry that happened to you.

I'd go back to my parents as soon as possible

No do not forgive him stress shouldn’t matter how he acts towards u!

No I would not forgive him. Like all the previous comments you need to leave mama. It will only get worse. I’ve been physically abused. Call police and make a report. Find a shelter.

Divorce immediately. I would also file a police report to a facilitate custody agreement. If he was so frustrated with toddler he took it out on you, what will happen when he’s frustrated again and you’re not there ?

My dear for a little situation like this he was willing to choked you, I would not feel safe around him let alone my child, next time he might tell your family sorry, that’s not okay, if you can stay with your parents go or look for some housing, especially if there’s abuse. I know it’s hard but it’s better to be safe.

Uhhhhh sounds like you shouldn’t be in this relationship.
I would contact my family members to help me leave that situation. I would tell them everything that is going on and all of the terrible things he’s said to me and did to me. I would contact divorce lawyers and compile evidence of his physical and verbal abuse.

No! He will do it again! I wouldn’t even trust him alone with your child because sooner or later his anger will turn to her. Please leave now while you can!

ABSOLUTELY not, run!! Those words he said to you alone tell me he doesn’t value you girl! I am heartbroken for you, please for your daughter leave this man. Not sure where you live but look up any housing programs!

Parenting can be hard and often we see the worst in people as they are under extreme stress.

It sounds like you are now seeing the worst of your partner and that behaviour is pretty serious.

You need to separate yourself from the situation and ensure your and your child’s safety.

If you choose to stay with your partner you need to move out of your MILs house and your husband needs to seek treatment for his anger.

Seconding gathering evidence, as you may end up with custody battles. If it’s not already been discussed by message, maybe see if u can get some sort of evidence/admission of it through a text conversation?

Leave right now. He will apologise and say it won’t happen again but it will happen again

You should %100 leave. You don’t deserve that and your daughter doesn’t deserve to listen to her mother get talked down too. Think what would you tell your daughter if she told you her boyfriend did that to her. You deserve the world..and at the very least you deserve respect! I wish you strength and courage to make the best decision. 🤞🏽🫶🏼

Get. Out.

I’m sorry that this happened to you. And I’m also that just like that your family has disolved. I’m sure he’s neglected you and your needs often if not all the time, I am sorry for that too.

I had to go to a shelter because of my abusive MIL and I am now in a beautiful apartment in the suburbs that I picked myself 💕 you’ll find the way and your self confidence again 💕 you, girl, are so so worthy of love and this man is absolutely going to regret it when you leave.
YOU NEED TO LEAVE. It’ll get worse. My dad did the same thing and my mom forgave him, he changed for about 1.5 years and one day after an argument he beat her so bad she lost 2 teeth and was bruised all over, me and my older sister got home early from college and that’s the only reason he stopped and left the house running, like the coward he is.

Guess what? About a decade after, when my mom decided to heal and go to therapy… she’s now in a beautiful relationship with a man that loves her and he’s there for all of us.