new man getting called dada?
so my son is 11 months old and i’ve been dating my man since november but we met around when my son was 3 weeks. he has basically been there for majority of his life and more than his biological father. my bd has been gone for like 7-8 months and doesn’t reach out at all. i know he’s completely able to cause he’s posting himself out with friends while his son just hasn’t seen him. my son recently started talking and he mainly says dada. literally kills me but thank god he said mama first he just likes dada better. since dating my man we’ve made jokes on several occasions about him being like a stepdad and about my bd’s absence. now again he’s been there consistently for my son and i. he has no kids of his own just a 6yr old nephew and we’re young (24) but he’s always like micromanaging my parenting in a way or just he cares basically. like he’ll say make sure i feed my son abalone it’s very good for him and be careful of this and that which to me is adorable and sometimes a lil annoying. but my bf has set up activity centers and seen all the milestones and all the teeth that have come in (literally got mad when i forgot to tell him about one of them lol). also my son ADORES him. omg it’s like i don’t exist sometimes like they have a close bond and that’s not even with seeing him all the time but we always facetime. since he’s saying dada my bf is starting to say it’s to him or like he’s dada and im not sure if that is ok? like in public when we’re out with my son everyone calls him dad and yk just assumes which is fair and i’ve stopped denying after like first few times cause they’re strangers what does it matter. however i told my bf he cannot teach my son to call him dada if he’s not gonna be there for him like a dad is supposed to be. he agreed with me and has continued calling himself dada and trying to get my son to say it to him. literally he made a joke yesterday about my son wanting his dada (referring to himself) and i said well dada better come get him and he drove 30+ mins to pick us up and kept calling himself dada and when my son would say it he would be all happy.
is it wrong?? i mean his dad isn’t around and doesn’t seem to have any interest in his wellbeing unlike my bf
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No it’s not wrong, it sounds like he wants to be called Dad🥹 if your comfortable and he’s comfortable then little your little one grow up with a father figure is his biological dad hasn’t shown up! 💕💕 just shows how loved your little one is 💕💕
If it’s right for you both then there’s nothing wrong. So long as he plans to be there for the long run there’s only good in it!
is it weird that i feel guilt towards bio dad about it tho? idk why when he’s not even present. i think my man has more right to it than bio dad atp tho cause he has that fatherly bond more so with my son
No you are just human of course you will feel empathy, but it sounds like Bio dad doesn’t care so why should you. Let your little family be 💕 i know loads of people who call their step dad dad as that is all they’ve ever known x
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