Stepmum/mom names
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No that’s not something I could ever see myself being comfortable. Calling her by her name, or maybe a cute nickname they’d like to come up with is just fine.
@Kaylee in my culture it is disrespectful for children to address adults by their first name. So let’s say I have a friend who is not related to me In any way my child has to refer to as aunty.
My niece doesn’t even call me aunty she jus calls me by my name only time it’s disrespectful is when she calls her mom/dad by their first name my child will NEVER call another women mommy/mummy bc im their mom not them
@Shaniya so would you actively step in to say something and stop your child from using mummy.. any suggestions of Nick names ?
@Kaylee I appreciate that for you it’s not disrespectful but for my family you 100% couldn’t call your blood aunty by their first name. Would have to be aunty. But to the second part I definitely hear you on that
Absolutely. I don’t see any child referring to the step mom as mom/ mommy unless dad or step mom has told them to. I would have a talk with dad and step mom and let them know that’s not something I’m ok with and it needs to be stopped. Depending on what her name is, I would come up with a nickname for her or ask her if she has a nickname that her family calls her.
My step kids call me my name, I would feel weird if they called me mommy tbh 😂
@Shaniya ok so you are saying variation of their first name
@Bolu do you also have kids of your own ?
Yes a variation of her first name, or if she has another appropriate nickname that you are both comfortable with, that’s an option. Just absolutely not mommy or anything like it.
@Shaniya ok cool thanks
What about “stepmom” in another language? I googled some 💕 Madrastra (Spanish) Belle-mère (French) Matringa (Italian) Makuahine (Hawaiian)
Yes, I do :)
It honestly depends on their relationship, involvement, and their commitment. Truly F the bd. Idc and I don’t wanna know their relationship. How she treat my kids? If I feel like she truly love my kids, there for them, etc. yes ma’am. I’m mommy and you’re mama or vice versa. Even if you’re still involved but don’t want that title or want a step back, this is miss x or auntie X. She’s earned that title regardless of Bd.
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The only time I’d find it fine to do so is if birth mom walked out and step mom is full time stepping in and raising said child. I never called my step mom by mom only by her name
@Kelly Mae I feel like this is too black and white. Not saying you’re wrong, just there is a wide variety of parents and parental figures. Mom/mommy may not feel appropriate but other nicknames could come in to play.
My fiancée has a son from a previous relationship and we have a son together. I would not feel comfortable if his son decided to call me mom at some point in the future. And I damn sure would not feel comfortable or think it was appropriate for my son to call someone else mom. I am his only mother. I don’t care who his father dates after. In black households we call step parents by their name. Like Mr. Jon or Ms. Pearly 🤣 but honestly it’s whatever YOU feel comfortable with.
It depends if your comfortable with it and how she feels. If she has been active and is planning on staying active then I don’t see an issue with it Co-parenting is extremely difficult as it is I would suggest have a conversation with them (your child) and let them know you’re comfortable with whatever they want to call your dad’s partner. I’m sure they will really appreciate it. No matter what they call her you are always going to be YOUR CHILDS mum so having a silly name or calling her mum isn’t going to break the fact that you guys have a mother and child connection/ bond no one can break that
No one should be calling step mum mommy unless mummy isn’t around x My husband’s step mum is very active and he calls her “aunty” - his mum raised him too
I am a step mom and my step son calls me vava a nickname from a variation of my name
I think it’s extremely inappropriate…. My dads ex expected me to call her mom and I didn’t I think step mom or their name is appropriate but watch if their being forced to call mom stepmom is fine
My partner has a son from a previous relationship and we now have a daughter of our own. I’ve been in his sons life since he was 2 years old he’s now coming on 7 and when he was little he sometimes would slip up and call me mum, sometimes even dad lol and I would always correct him and say “I’m Zozo” as he was still a baby and didn’t wonna cause any confusion for him (his nickname for me). I will always love that boy if he was my own and if he ever decided to call me mum when he gets older I would expect it and appreciate it but I wouldn’t never tell him he would have to call me mum. He has his mummy and she will always be his mummy and that will never change no matter what he calls me. my bound and love will always be the same. but at the end of the day it’s your family and your experience and circumstance so whatever works better for you and your family.
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