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January 2024 Babies 🇬🇧

Need to vent - family drama!

So it’s our first Fathers Day this year and we have a weekly invite to my in-laws for a Sunday roast (we’ve been doing it for the last 10 years , before we had our LG, and absolutely everyone in our lives knows this) - until now, the plan was the same in that we go to in-laws for lunch, then drive over to my Dad’s to see him for the rest of the afternoon (same as every other year). He got a bit arsey with me about it, but was okay in the end (I think lol) - we didn’t think it was fair to call and cancel on his parents because mine had decided days before to invite us over. But, I was chatting to my sister about it earlier this evening and it ended in an almighty row over my “lack of social skills” and how I don’t want to go anywhere or see anyone. For context, she’s a major party animal and borderline (if not) alcoholic, so everything she does revolves around drink. I was saying to her that I don’t think it’s fair for me to have to make the 20 minute drive to see them all the time (in general), we don’t have a standing invite for regular visits, I thought they’d be here more often and I can’t do it on my own spur of the moment in the week, as LG is prone to meltdowns in the car if no one is in the back with her. She’s not seen LG for months, and pointed out I hadn’t driven 45 mins to her house since I was pregnant (had quite a few complications so this was a red flag to a bull at this point). She’s been in town several times and promised to pop in to see her, only to cancel last minute, which I pointed out. I ended up hanging up and she continued by text, saying I’d always been this way and I’m using LG as an excuse not to go out and see people, it’s unfair to expect everyone to come and see her.
In my mind, I’m here to facilitate relationships between my daughter and extended family, not responsible for establishing them. Am I being too stubborn?