Desperate help needed

Can my child’s father change her school? For reference we live apart, not in the same area. He wants to change her school but she lives with me?

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No he can’t, both parents who have parental responsibility need to agree. Speak with citizens advice, it’s free but you’ll get some clarity around it.

thank you. I have had abit of information on Google which has given some clarity. But seems much better when information comes from real people, and the instant fog that comes with the stress is blurring my thoughts

No he can't. The primary parent only can

I don't know if this helps but we recently moved area and my son 15yrs keeps running back to old area.....To stay at my mums beyond my desire....My mum has actually applied for a new school for him to attend and the local authorities have allowed it to happen. He's 16 in September also so by law he can even choose where he wants to live..... so I still have full guardian ship although my mum has full responsibility for him to go school etc.

If dad has parental responsibility then legally both parents need to agree. The problem is that admissions don’t really check. If one parent wanted to stop the other applying for school and then they’d have to apply to court for a specific issues order.

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My husband’s therapist told him to start doing an exercise with me and tell me one thing every day that he’s gained in the last 3 years.

His first response yesterday was our daughter his first born.

I got upset that this was his first response. His defense was that his kids come first and always. Which okay wasn’t fully expecting him to say me or anything BUT we have 2 other kids and he didn’t say the kids he named her specifically.

I get she’s his first born but he spoils her rotten she’s always getting new stuff and toys and things and the other girls really don’t granted my oldest is always getting in trouble and usually grounded and our youngest is still a baby but I can’t help but feel like she’s his favorite and shows it loudly. She’s even his screen saver just her and him.

Am I wrong to have gotten annoyed/upset? I told him I just didn’t think that was gunna be his answer.

Idk maybe I’m taking it out of proportion 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do kids learn more in nursery or childminders ? Debating where to put my child 😭

Help pleaseee from your experience

..... divorce or marriage counseling?

2 kiddos, no DV, No cheating. Financially we are okay, slowly moving up in physical stability. However emotionally and physically we seem to hate each other. To be honest I cannot stand him anymore. I spent the whole time giving myself to my newborns, then to him. He can't even tell me I am pretty, or appreciated, or.... anything, besides argue and diminish me. I cannot stand him.

He hasn't been evil.

Do I do therapy (which will be its own fight)
Or just start paperwork?