Marriage on the rocks

I’ll start with I’m pouring from an empty cup, I work part time (stressful job), breast feed, cook, I barely get time to shower or eat. Yet I prioritize taking care of our 9 mo after 4 am so my husband can sleep in till 8.30 am. I go out of my way to let him sleep in on weekends, make him a special breakfast like pancakes, give him a massage. Yes these aren’t extravagant but this is all I can do right now. My husband has been giving me constant attitude, today he kept asking me to guess why my BIL wants to call us. I couldn’t guess because I’m exhausted. He slammed the door walked out. It wasn’t appreciated. I raised it with him and he exploded that he is last on my priority list and I’m not caring for his feelings. I’m furious. Of all I’ve done to be told i don’t prioritize him. It’s annoying. I am just giving up now cause I can’t do anymore.

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Gosh, some men are the biggest fucking babies. They have no idea how much we give on a daily basis. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. He needs to grow up and communicate.

You're not alone my fiancé hasn't been staying at the house for 2 weeks and has been acting weird and I do everything rn and I don't know what to do anymore either

that’s for sure. I was nice raising the door slamming but to accuse the person doing so much, I am enraged. It’s not even worth speaking with him about it anymore. I’ll internalize and move on until one day I’ll explode on him too. Not good for our marriage but I am too tired to have options

This first year of parenthood is so rough on a relationship! To be honest if I wasn’t in therapy and my partner and I didn’t go through couples therapy, Idk if we would be surviving.

My ex & I are seperated, in the process of getting a divorce. He would constantly accuse me of doing the exact same thing you're talking about & was so abusive & self centered & selfish it was ridiculous. I did all of those things for him to make him feel special just like you & same here it was never enough. God forbid he ever lifted a finger to help me out & when confronted he would tell me closed mouths don't get fed, that may be true but I also shouldn't have to constantly remind my partner that I need help. He fed our son his bottle twice when we were together. You just can't please some people love. It hurts it really does. & it also sucks knowing how alone you are all of a sudden in a situation like that. It's devastating. So my son & I left. And I still do everything by myself nothing has changed in that aspect but at least I don't have someone pointing a finger in my face putting me & my feelings down 24/7 & my son doesn't have to watch it anymore. I hope everything works out for you 🤍

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Missing him

My husband and I had been married for 2 years now. Honestly it’s been HELL. Nothing abusive. We got married one month after dating so you can imagine how that’s going lol. Right now ? We’ve been on bad terms since August !!! It’s march 😭😭😭 he trying but it’s not good enough but I miss him so much ( he’s always away , navy) but as soon as he gets back the fight continues bc it never freaking ended. We’ve barely spoken for 2 weeks and every time he leaves we have a big fight the night before 🙄🙄🙄 I miss him bad but hate him all the same time. I want to stop being sooooo angry with him but I feel like if I stop it will show that I’m not standing on my boundaries 😒😒 he’s been pretty much underway since August… and still isn’t done yet 🤦🏾‍♀️ won’t be until next month… Jesus. Any military spouses ? How in the fuck can you deal with anything when they aren’t even here 🙄🙄🙄

Would it bother you if your husband was hanging out with his sister at 4am in a closed bedroom upstairs while you’re in bed downstairs?

My sister in law is visiting/spending the night and we haven’t seen her in over a year because of living abroad. I have some past trauma from my own family so I was triggered when my husband saw that I was almost asleep at 4am when he was up playing video games and instead of coming to bed, went upstairs to chat with his sister. But I sound crazy even saying anything because it’s his sister, right? Is it inappropriate? Am I buggin? Would you feel uncomfortable?

..... divorce or marriage counseling?

2 kiddos, no DV, No cheating. Financially we are okay, slowly moving up in physical stability. However emotionally and physically we seem to hate each other. To be honest I cannot stand him anymore. I spent the whole time giving myself to my newborns, then to him. He can't even tell me I am pretty, or appreciated, or.... anything, besides argue and diminish me. I cannot stand him.

He hasn't been evil.

Do I do therapy (which will be its own fight)
Or just start paperwork?

Screen or paper — how do you handle story time?

My husband is working on a kids’ reading app and it’s got me thinking — do you prefer your kids read on a tablet or a physical book? Curious what other moms think and why!

Food idea

I have tried a lot of foods for my 1 yr old but he don’t like anything he just likes snacks anyone has any ideas for foods to make for my 1 yr old

Break up

I am utterly heartbroken as my husband has decided our marriage is over. It’s come pretty out of the blue, I genuinely just thought we were having a rough patch and we’d come out the other side. We have a 3 year old and 5 year old and honestly I don’t know how I’m supposed to cope when it comes to separate Christmas’ and birthdays. My 3 year old will never remember us together. I don’t want them to have step parents- honestly I don’t think I’d ever be in love again. I had planned to do life with this man and it’s just over? How do I pick myself up and carry on? I just want to cry