At my wits end

Partner doesn't offer to look after 3 month old unless I ask. If I don't ask, I will be left with LO the whole day. I know he works and comes home and wants his space but I literally am stuck with baby 24/7. I go days without showering, hours without eating or drinking and weeks without styling my hair. He would never say "hey I've noticed you haven't showered in a while, do you want a break for yourself". Never ever ever. He admits he doesn't ask but he does the same thing - comes home and relaxes, credit to him that he does odd jobs around the house but I still need a break otherwise I will lose my mind. I'm going through post partum depression which he knows and I still feel alone. At this point, I don't see the difference between my situation and being a single mum.

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My suggestion would be that instead of asking you just announce that you’re going to do it. Would he ask to have a shower?

So long as you trust him to keep baby safe, tell him you’re going to do X, pass over baby and get that hair washed girl!

You shouldn’t have to be assertive but some men just suck (in same areas of life at least). Fight your corner 👊💪

@Bridget 💯 agree! Men don't really initiate much. I always say I'm taking a shower and pass him over or leave him playing and if I leave the area I just say watch him if his eyes are on his phone or whatever. I even say "take him" when I've had enough.

My partner gets home 5:30 and has baby alone until 7:30. I take the time to either just chill, bath/shower, or do little jobs like put clothes away etc. He plays fifa 7:30-9ish then we chill together until 11. Both have down time x

My partner is the exact same except when I asked for help he uses the excuse that he works all day... I don't know how to stop that or get him to actually help cuz he thinks he does enough just by working

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Would it bother you if your husband was hanging out with his sister at 4am in a closed bedroom upstairs while you’re in bed downstairs?

My sister in law is visiting/spending the night and we haven’t seen her in over a year because of living abroad. I have some past trauma from my own family so I was triggered when my husband saw that I was almost asleep at 4am when he was up playing video games and instead of coming to bed, went upstairs to chat with his sister. But I sound crazy even saying anything because it’s his sister, right? Is it inappropriate? Am I buggin? Would you feel uncomfortable?

3 year old saying teachers hit him at daycare

My son started daycare at 2, he is now 3 and shakes with fear and cries at daycare drop off. He doesn’t want to go and when I ask him why, he says his teacher is mean to him and that she hits him in the back. I put a lot of thought in choosing this daycare. There is one particular teacher that he always says is mean to him. However, there is another teacher that he likes, and he specifically asks for her and is ok to be with her. Could this be true that his teacher hits him? Should I bring it up to the daycare management? Have your children said something similar and it turned out to be true? My husband thinks he is saying this to get out of going to daycare. My son is very attached to me and wants to spend every second of the day with me. He won’t even let his dad do anything for him, it’s always mommy. My heart is breaking. I don’t want to strain our relationship with the daycare, but is it appropriate to bring up my concerns and tell them that my son says he is being hit at daycare? Sorry, it’s a little bit of a rant. Please respond with your thoughts on what you would do.

Do kids learn more in nursery or childminders ? Debating where to put my child 😭

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AITAH?

My husband’s therapist told him to start doing an exercise with me and tell me one thing every day that he’s gained in the last 3 years.

His first response yesterday was our daughter his first born.

I got upset that this was his first response. His defense was that his kids come first and always. Which okay wasn’t fully expecting him to say me or anything BUT we have 2 other kids and he didn’t say the kids he named her specifically.

I get she’s his first born but he spoils her rotten she’s always getting new stuff and toys and things and the other girls really don’t granted my oldest is always getting in trouble and usually grounded and our youngest is still a baby but I can’t help but feel like she’s his favorite and shows it loudly. She’s even his screen saver just her and him.

Am I wrong to have gotten annoyed/upset? I told him I just didn’t think that was gunna be his answer.

Idk maybe I’m taking it out of proportion 🤷🏻‍♀️

Screen or paper — how do you handle story time?

My husband is working on a kids’ reading app and it’s got me thinking — do you prefer your kids read on a tablet or a physical book? Curious what other moms think and why!

Would you allow you child to gift their toys to their best friends?

I haven’t yet had this happen yet but our daughter is a very caring and thoughtful little human and may decide to do this eventually. And I’ve heard of this happening with other children. If your child gave away a toy and then wanted it back(after a long amount of time) how would handle it.
A) Would you get them a new one that looks the same.
B) Explain that when we give people gifts we don’t take them back because that’s rude.
C) Go to the parents and get it back.