LO not settling into nursery

Im going back to work in a few weeks and trying to get my LO to settle into nursery but it’s been a nightmare! She was great for the settling in sessions but now she has started properly going she literally screams and clings to me at drop off and when I pick her up she does the same but with a red puffy face from crying all day and it is breaking my heart. The staff are lovely and assure me she isn’t like that all day but at home she is usually so happy and content it just feels against every motherly instinct in me to send her somewhere she is so distressed by!

She is also only sleeping 30 mins when she is there but at home has at least 90 mins and is also hardly eating while she is there too (although she is a picky eater at home too)

It also seems to have ignited a huge bout of separation anxiety in her too! She used to sit and play independently loads whereas now she constantly wants to be near me and if I put her down to do something she literally crawls around after me crying until I pick her up…

Everyone keeps telling me it will get better but any idea WHEN!? Because I can’t cope

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My boy has just started with the separation anxiety, he won’t let me put him in his play pen or on his cot! I’m dreading his settling in session tomorrow and starting properly at nursery on Tuesday! I think the separation anxiety is normal at this age, just bad timing with starting nursery and having to leave them all day. Hopefully it passes quickly! I know it can take a while to settle in and start napping and eating properly there too x

Working in a nursery it’s just the change and she will get better over time 9/10 they are always fine as soon as they go in and have settled down , try not to worry I know it’s easier said than done but she will be fine 💗💗💗💗💗

I went back to work last week and although my son is with his grandparents (not starting nursery until September), I’ve noticed huge increase in the separation anxiety. I often struggle to put him in his high chair as he just clings to me. Whenever I put him in the car, he cries when I shut the door until he realises I’m just in the front seat. I guess they just need to get used to it and they will realise that we will come back. It’s so so hard and oh my gosh the mum guilt is horrific!

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