Denial
So question, ladies…
My husband is really trying hard to be better for me and child on the way. BUT he has anger issues and when he gets angry he can be pretty verbally abusive. Some times more than others. Any ways, last few times we argue in person he was saying how he was so angry with me and telling me why (bcz I wasn’t handling certain money aspects to his liking or how we discussed previously)
During him letting his mouth run in anger he stated that he wanted to just kick me in the head. In the other argument he said something similar. I didn’t mention it bcz he gets anxious about me leaving him. But we were having a conversation last night and I mentioned it. He denied it saying that he would never say that, that he would never say something like that. I’m really struggling in my mind bcz I know I didn’t imagine it. And I can’t imagine what else he could have said to where I heard him say something like this in two separate arguments. But he is denying it and I’m laughing it off so it doesn’t become a deal.
I’m really not comfortable thinking about us raising a child together knowing his anger will have us in arguments and he’ll be disrespecting me on a regular basis. He’s been trying hard and been sweet lately but I know what happens when the anger comes around
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He won’t change. He’s just posturing. He’s gaslighting you and the anxiousness about you leaving is just a distraction to make you feel bad and reassure him. I’ve been reading the book Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft. You should check it out. This will not get better and him being verbally abusive “sometimes” will turn into all the time soon. Especially after the baby is born.
@Sarah so the baby's been born and its been a heck of a ride. We've separated. Well.... I've left the home. We're at a point now that he'll get mad at me while we talk on the phone and he sent me a video of him bad mouthing me to our 10 month old child. Calling me a worthless arse bihct and what not. He apologized after but it falls on deaf ears. I'm really deciding how to handle this situation because my patience and empathy for him are running very low
Oh lord. I didn’t even think about the timeframe. That’s awful that he does that to your son. I’m glad you’re out of the home though. That’s really the best thing you can do.
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