Please tell me it gets better

I feel like since my daughter turned 4 months old we’ve had a really hard time with getting her to sleep. She’s been quite a good sleeper since 2 weeks old, was very happy to take naps throughout the day and slept for a decent chunk of time on a night. Since the 4 month sleep regression I feel like we’ve been in this never ending loop of bad sleep, crap naps and crying meltdowns (both me and the baby!!) she’s now nearly 6 months old.

If it’s not the 4 month sleep regression it’s teething, if it’s not teething it’s a developmental leap… I can’t cope with it anymore. I know it’s not her fault and the reason she cries is because she wants comfort, she’s been going through a lot these past couple of months but goddddd am I exhausted. I feel like I breastfeed her for 30-40 mins then place her in her bed then within an hour she’s up again. I feel like I’m not getting any sleep what so ever. I’m running on fumes.

The 4 month sleep regression lasted just over a month, then teething causing disruption in her sleep due to the discomfort and now she’s nearly 6 months I have no idea what’s happening? A leap, maybe? She’s waking up every hour on a night doing the worst scream cry I’ve ever heard, she makes herself cough and gip she screams that loud.. she will only sleep if she’s physically on someone or feeding. Her day naps are pretty much non existent, if she’s in her bed she has 10 mins, she’ll only contact nap…. And even then she fights it.
She starts screaming and whingeing if we put her on her play mat for 5 mins of independent play, she’ll scream and do this high pitch whinge she’s recently learnt and it goes right through me.

I love my daughter, I really do, but I’m struggling so much at the moment and I’m finding that her crying and screaming is really triggering me and I feel incredibly overwhelmed. My husband helps as much as he can but I still struggle to calm myself down, I literally feel like I want to sit on the floor and bawl my eyes out. I’m running on empty. I’m with her from the moment she wakes up and I’m spending my days battling to get her to sleep, just for her to sleep ten mins and she’s screaming for the rest of the day as she’s tired, then the nighttime routine happens and she’s fighting the bedtime sleep too. It’s a never ending cycle and it just feels like Groundhog Day everyday at the minute.

I know I sound like I’m moaning, she’s a baby, it’s not her fault and I completely agree. I’m just struggling, and I’m just a mum asking if anyone else is feeling the same recently? Motherhood feels so lonely, despite the support I get from my husband, I just think deep down he doesn’t truly get my frustration.

Please tell me this all gets better? She’s 24 weeks… I need this to get better 😢

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You don’t have to justify your feelings so much, this stuff is harrrrrrrd
My baby is 9 months and does okay but every now and then she has a day like that and it puts me in tears too! Does your baby fall asleep on her own in the crib? She might be having a hard time connecting sleep cycles. Maybe you could try huckleberry or some type of sleep trainer app/consultant? You deserve rest!!

I started (safely) co-sleeping in same bed with our LO around that age and oh my gosh we never looked back. It gave her the closeness she was craving and she's slept so much better ever since x

Hello - we went through a similar period between 3-5 months and it was hard. Fighting naps, battling every nap time, screaming in the car, etc etc. It felt like it would never end. The crap naps.. nearly sent me. But then one day she just… started consolidating her day naps… we went from 5 naps some days to consistently 3 naps a day. So I guess I’m just sharing that to let you know that she will get there, just keep up with good sleep and nap habits and when it comes down to it do whatever works. Our LO sleeps in her cot but we cosleep when she’s really upset/unwell or on an early wake and doing that changed the game tbh. I put so much pressure on myself to not have her in our bed and honestly the flexibility of it has been amazing (as has the lie ins!).

Also my daughter is 6 months and she has recently gone through a week of waking up scream crying, seems like she’s almost still asleep? Weird. A lot of other mums have told me same same at 6 months so I feel like it is just a leap X

Thank you for your comments!!❤️❤️

I feel like I could have written this myself, as I’m feeling the exact same way ☹️ I feel your pain. My LG is the exact same and same age too, I’m really hoping it passes soon not sure how much longer I can cope of the constant crying and fighting sleep and playtime etc 😩 having to take tablets for my headaches daily now because of the screaming and cries x

It’s so hard isn’t it :(( I really hope it improves soon. I’m the exact same, going to bed with migraines due to the constant screaming and sleep deprivation xx

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I’m so sick of arguing with my husband over this.

My daughter is 11 weeks old, and my husband works Monday to Friday. I look after her all day every day, and on the weekends and some evenings he goes out cycling. I don’t mind this, he gets extremely ratty and stir crazy if he doesn’t go out, and it drives me mad.

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I love my daughter more than anything, and my husband is lovely, I swear. It’s just a really tough time with her sleep, and I’m struggling to cope. I’m so, so tired. And he doesn’t seem to realise this, because he is. We have talked about this so many times, but it just turns into an argument. Please tell me this will pass?