What’s your thoughts on this

My man and I broke up and so I ended up messing around with another man during that time, but we got back together and now he’s saying my vagina doesn’t feel the same anymore because I let another man have sex with me. Is it true that another man can change your vagina? Like he’s saying it’s not as tight and there use to be walls he had to knock down and now there isn’t.

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Firstly that’s kinda rude but unfortunately your not the only woman that I’ve seen post/talk about this I personally don’t no if that’s true but I’ve seen and heard a lot of woman saying people have said this to them.

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No that’s not true in the slightest🤣🤣. He’s just trying to make you feel bad for sleeping with someone else. Tell him to grow up and get over it, or don’t be with you anymore

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I feel like it’s just bloody rude every time I hear someone post something about it I’m honestly shocked

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That's 100% rude wtf, it's like you saying his dick doesn't feel that big anymore, if he doesn't like it tough luck. I honestly doubt there's a difference unless this other guy was the size of Godzilla or something, and your boyfriends likely tryna make you feel bad for sleeping with someone else when you two weren't together, which is stupid cause you didn't do anything wrong

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If you know he slept with other women. Just say his penis doesn’t feel as big anymore because he slept with someone else 😂
But no it’s not true as it’s like a scrunchie. If women can push a baby out and it goes back to what it was pre baby. Otherwise everything could fall out if it didn’t 😂

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but he doesn’t even get hard anymore because the thought of another man being with me turns him off. So I feel like it’s true

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It’s physically, biologically not true. You get ‘loose’ the more turned on you are. Having sex, even giving birth doesn’t make you looser or tighter.
If it turns him off so much why did he get back with you? Why are you staying with him when he’s making you feel this way about yourself ?

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Lmao 🤣 this is funny but to answer your question No lmao 🤣,…….

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It’s definitely more of a mental thing. Physically no, your body doesn’t change anytime you have a new partner. It sounds like mentally and emotionally he can’t handle the fact that you were with someone else. This is probably a deal breaker - I wouldn’t stay with someone that said some shit like that, and also it will probably continue to be an issue that’s brought up. Save yourself the heartache and don’t go back, just figure out how to move on.

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Honestly though it might hurt you, you might as well tell him to leave, he's making you doubt literal biological facts because he can't get over the fact that you slept with someone else whilst you weren't together, if it turns him off so much and he can't grow up and be a mature human being you're better off without him. You shouldn't let anyone make you doubt yourself, you're better than that ❤

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Maybe he is targeting your insecurities or something else... or he himself insecure...
There is no science to backup what he says...
vagina is not rubber band to lose it's elasticity...
Try to get intimate and do in different position, or other condom or do pelvic exercise or change the environment...
Sex is to love and feel loved... not for damn thing to make you feel less, it may not you feel guilty but also put you on stressed over having sex...

Giving birth ( baby coming out) and intercourse ( letting in) in both case vagina open... that's all... don't worry

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So in your op you said that he said that it doesn’t feel that same anymore because you let another man have sex with you. But in your later comment you said he doesn’t get hard anymore because the thought of another man being with you turns him off…

The issue isn’t your vagina .. you literally just said that he doesn’t like the thought of you with another man. So that’s on him. If he can’t get over something that happened while you guys were officially broken up. Not even on a break but broken up. That’s on him. It’s not like you cheated. It sounds like a possession thing honestly. He’s upset because you didn’t stay lonely during the break up. He may have but that doesn’t mean he didn’t try anything. He could be just jealous that you were successful in moving on. Were you guys each others firsts ? Cause if not then he can’t get mad that “another man had you” if you guys weren’t each others firsts.

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I feel like he’s just saying that it can’t change that much.. ph chnages sometimes with different partners but that’s not something he could feel…. Maybe emotionally he’s upset about it but I really don’t think he can tell anything physical..

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He’s a clown , maybe the guy you had was with had a much larger p***s 😂😂😂 I’m joking but honestly it’s not even a thing, he needs to grow up

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What a load of crap. Even if the dude was considerably bigger than your bf, the vagina is stretchy and won't loosen up so quick. It comes back from giving birth even so from a bigger ...

What I think it is happening is that he is obsessing over how big was.the other guy, and is projecting his insecurities on you to make you feel bad. But don't. You weren't together so does not matter. Stuck up for yourself be strong

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Not true. Don't date men who are this stupid.

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When men don't know how vaginas work and say really stupid shit lol the answer is NO.

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The vagina is a muscle it expands and contracts…he’s making you feel guilty, and it’s a mentality thing for him if he’s not getting up knowing you’ve been w someone else, has nothing to do with your vagina.

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LMAOOOOO OH PLEASE

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