Took his gf around my son when I said not to!!!

Is she a safety threat to your child!

that's the thing idk!! I've met her once! She was just on drugs went to rehab and now pregnant! And from what I've seen on her social media she has been not always in the best mental state sometimes! But all of that is just what I think of my problem is I don't know her!!! Idc if it was her or another girl I want to sit and talk to anyone that will be around my son! I think any normal parent would have an issue with it

Exactly! I was thinking of telling him hes lost my trust once again I gave him an opportunity to show me hes changing but clearly he can't! He sees him maybe once a week if that! He can't spare 1 day to spend alone time with his son it makes no sense to me!! I even told him if he can't wait ill agree to play nice and talk to her but I guess thats not good enough! Now u don't even want to because I swear I'll probably smack there

And I can care less about another half sibling he has. Already has 3 hasn't met any nor met any of his famiky!! Hes 10 months!

You can meet her still won’t mean you know her. People think they know someone and obviously don’t. He’s young so not even a faze to him. I’d get over it. He’s moved on (rather he cheated or not).

lmao trust me when I say I was going to . But knowing one of them they would call the cops so I can wait!

get over what exactly? Him bringing her around my son when I said not to? No I'm good! Its the respect for me. And im being very nice to both only because of my son.

Being the one that wasn’t allowed around my husbands son because baby mama was being difficult and I did nothing wrong
She’s the one that cheated and is married to the guy she cheated with
She made my life hell for years all because she didn’t want him to be happy

If this woman isn’t a risk to your child why make things difficult? You got your child back in one piece and I’m on both ends in a step mom and bio mom my ex and I have a great co parenting relationship id love for them to have a step mom the loves them like I do but that’s just me and I know what it’s like to be hated just because I’m the new girl in the exes life

the only reason I have a problem with her is because she knew about me from the start and even when I found out because she came to me she swore she would leave him alone and let us work things out. Don't be a hypocrite! But still that's not my issue! Whatever hate i have for them i don't let that affect my son with seeing him nor her. Eventually I know she will be around him. My thing is don't fuckin bring her around when I specifically asked u to respect that till we can have a sit down or some kind of chat about being around him

And he knew you existed to and continued to mess with her

My suggestion
Next drop off talk to her and him
My husband had to go up to my ex and introduce himself and I had to do the same with my husbands ex
I guarantee she has no idea that you want to have a talk before she’s around your child
But at the end of the day he’s going to bring her around regardless of your wants

yes they both did wrong but to me when a woman knows about him being in a relationship and is ok with it and continues the relationship thats where its a problem! But again my issue is lying and having her around. And she definitely knows how I feel . And he don't bring her around when he oucks him up or I would say something to her I have no problem with talking to her again

Your son is young so won’t even remember. Was saying get over that part. He didn’t respect ur wishes while with you so you expect him to care now and do it? You implied he barely sees him can’t bring him home since she lives there. So have monitored visits at a park.