Trying to figure out what to doš¤
Any single moms here??
My bd moved away when I was 3 months pregnant. Our daughter is 2, and heās only seen her 2 times (1 week each time). Heās in Ct, and Iām in NC. Heās asking to come get her and bring her to his state without me. He isnāt on the birth certificate. I told him it'd be best if he came here to see her. Last month he told me. He canāt come out here because he works, and he just called me today saying heās taking a week off for his birthday could he come get her for 5 days (he wouldnāt even take off for her birthday). Iām all for my daughter having her dad in her life, but I worry he might not give her back.
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I would not allow this. Could you go with her?
I wouldnāt allow this ā¹ļø way too many horror stories of people not getting their kids back.
I told him back in May I would fly out with her and he was okay with it, and then he called me at the end of June told me he doesnāt want me to be around. His words ā I should be able to get her without you aroundā
Single mom from NC here! I definitely am going through similar situations. Iād say do what makes YOU comfortable. Especially being that heās not even on the BC. That gives you the power to do whatās best for you and your daughter. Maybe wait until she talks more and is able to communicate more. That usually makes me feel better. Also before you got pregnant how long have you known him? That can decipher how comfortable you feel allowing to take your daughter to another state.
second baby being able to communicate before being left alone with people who you don't necessarily know or trust
Quite frankly, him being able to hop in and out for his convenience is not in her best interest. That's an absolutely wild take and he clearly doesn't understand parenting. I'm sorry this is on your plate.
He was in Nc for 2 months and then left for 6 months and came back and told me he was staying here for good. From March up until October we were together, but once we got our own place I noticed his anger issues and it scared me off. Found out I was pregnant in early august. But I definitely ignored red flags (we were 18) he was a complete different person in his home state ( where he was comfortable). He doesnāt have a stable place, either on his grandma couch or at a girlfriendās place
I've not had this kind of experience but I would NOT let him take her. You've stated that he's only seen her twice within 2 years...how would he know how to care for her properly? He wouldn't know what she likes to eat, or how to bathe her. I think this would be very awkward, even for him.
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