am I trippin?
I have this girl i’ve been talking to and she presented like she wanted to be locked in at first but then retracted and said we need to take it slow and that gives me anxiety because that makes me feel like you’re not interested in me anymore and I has. panic attack about it now she’s talking to me less and less, today she didn’t speak to me at all and we’re supposed to hang out this weekend, I bought a projector for us to watch movies and everything, I feel like she may have found someone else …do I need to leave her alone?
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She may have felt that she was pressuring you into moving fast, I will talk to her in the morning to see if everything is okay with her, and I would tell her how that made you feel
Would* I always try to be open with my feelings to save myself the headache later
that’s another thing , I feel like when my feelings are said , she doesn’t really wanna hear them necessarily. it’s like i’m bothering her or like i’m “doing too much” but if we’re talking about her anxiety it’s fine, i’m calming her down but me i’m always left to deal with my own anxiety
is that really a relationship you want to be in then? You matter as well 🫶🏽
she blocked me on all her social media and hasn’t talked to me in a day … so much for being honest and upfront lmao
It kind of sounds like your anxiety and reaction to her switching up is a little concerning. Do you think you move too quickly or may be codependent? Maybe it was too much too soon for her
but here’s the thing , she’s the one who presented it to be like that in the first place , wanting to be locked in and then switched it up saying that she wants to slow down and I don’t like that without proper communication cause yes it does trigger my abandonment issues but she has anxiety attacks about stuff to that I sat and listened to bro that’s not fair . so she can have trauma that she wants me to be patient about and I can’t ???
she’s def self serving and I guess the flag was how hot and ready she was. One thing I learned is to always go at your own pace, despite the other person. Sometimes they make it safe for us to feel we can just dive in, but you never know someone’s intentions with you, and they usually switch up. She sounds like she needs help and the relationship would have stressed you out girl
I’m really sorry, it sounds like things went south…maybe that she hasn’t found someone but maybe she wasn’t feeling it and didn’t know how to tell you? Which it fucked up because adults should know how to communicate. BUT I also see your only 3 hours away from me if you ever need a movie night I’m down! No need for that projector to go to waste 😌
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