My mom calls me stupid dumb and everything in the books when it comes to my bd this man can't even help himself right now and she hounding me about some child support

I’m not going through that but if he’s clearly financially struggling then how is he gonna pay child support ? I don’t get ur mom but at the same time 4 months is a long time. Maybe he got complacent with not working ? I hope he’s at least looking for a job but it’s not like he’s purposefully neglecting his duties

She said it doesn't matter as long as he's put on there but he lost his drivers license so he's trying to find a driving job and can't because of his record.. unfortunately he said he need something that's paying good money but nobody is hiring him he's been looking applying and trying tho.. she want me to cuss him out everyday harrass him with making him help more like what is that gonna solve

Yeah ur mom tripping. Its not like hes not trying , he is and that makes all the difference honestly cause some men have it and still won’t do what their supposed to and clearly hes still in his baby’s life. Hope he finds sumn soon though because losing everything might drive him to depression. Do what u think is right for u and ur baby 💕

Your mum needs to stfu I'm sorry girl but I will not let my mum talk down on me, like yeah talk down on my bd but not me, she's not mindful. I reckon tell her leave it ! As a grown lady and as what my mother would say is. Leave him alone, this could make it mentally harder for him, he could kill himself and your son will have no father. What matters is if he wants to see his son or not. I know your mums probably seeing you in financial needs or she helps you and she maybe getting sick of it, but a man can only take so much. Some can handle it some cant as a father. Getting a job, shit my bd can't even go out shopping for himself ! Let alone keep a job, as long as when he does get some work he puts in some money for us, but I just rely on myself and family

Putting child support on my bd is a dog move cause I know he can't even support himself. I can't down my bd because that's my son's father, I will help him not put his name on child support just so the govt can hound him for money that he can't even get yet, when I know he's stable and get moneeey I will haha

it's a girl lol but yeah she's like you need to apply pressure on his assss and blah blah so I'm thinking I'm really stupid and not applying pressure on him , but he's literally losing everything it's gonna stress him out more isn't it ??

she said she doesn't care about what he has going on I still need to apply pressure on him

He only has 1 pair of shoes and it looks like they been ran through the dumpster he has them on everytime I see him just about or sometimes he'll wear his old crocs I wanna buy him some new shoes so bad but don't want it to bite me in the ass one day lol

Because you have a baby, your probably old enough to speak up too. Tell her respectfully mum, you just need to mind your own business you don't see me go integrating you for your business. As a mother you shouldn't be putting pressure on me, I'm already dealing with enough. If you don't have anything else to say besides this I don't want to talk to you about it. Everytime she trys to bring it up, just stare at her, say nothing and walk away your pretty nice for a daughter to just listen, but there's a point where you gotta tell a mum to shuush and it's now because it's effecting your mental health now

You can remind him hey it's been hard lately if you do find some funds to give for baby I would appreciate it, but if mums saying to hound him all the time and say he's useless and all this bs then defs the person would get mentally drained