Mother in law sharing my daughter’s pics

I think its completely normal, she's obviously smitten and very proud to show off her Granddaughter 😊

It’s up to you and your partner what gets shared. I personally don’t mind my mother in law doing it but she also asked me if I was ok with it before she did. If you’re not comfortable with it you are well within your rights to tell her that you don’t like it and ask her to stop ☺️

Depends what you decide. If you find it uncomfortable then no, she shouldn't do it. I personally don't mind if it's family but they know they cannot share on social media. As long as you and your partner inform them. They cannot read your mind

I don't see an issue with it x

I'll be honest, my mil did this after we made it clear that we want her to ask before sharing photos of our son as we have not posted any pics of him on social media and like what you said...we don't know everyone and it makes me uncomfortable knowing that people I do not know having photos of my son. Well...she casually dropped how she bumped into her neighbour and shared photos with her, and a distant great grandma. I stood by my boundaries and told her she has no right to distribute photos of my son around without asking us as his parents first. One thing showing photos but to share them so others have access to the photos whenever they want is another story. She wasn't very happy about it but it's all about respecting the parents wishes like with you, you are your little ones mummy, not her 🤗❤️

It's very normal
I have a rule in my house however that if anything is going to be shared they need to ask. I rarely say no but I just want eyes and ears on it as there are creeps out there!

Very normal but if you're not comfortable with it then chat to her. I have a very explicit rule that he cannot have images of him shared when not fully clothed. They all know that and respect that. If I send them one, I always just remind that it isn't for sharing with anyone else (e.g. him in his nappy or bath or something). But that's my rules

Personally it depends how it's being shared. My mom shares photos with her siblings, who I obviously know, and shows them to coworkers and neighbors -not sending just showing on her phone. I don't mind this because they don't keep the photo and it's not public like social media. If she were doing it on social media I'd have a problem with it.

I don't share a lot of my kids on sm-our preference. Now my inlaws get pics and videos on their phones and digital frame. Not always the same things go to the frame and phones. We control what goes where. I love that my inlaws are so proud of the kids.

I wouldn't send pics that I don't want shared but for the most part once I send its out of my hands. Just cute photos that I assume she's sharing with other family

I don't send my MIL pics of my kids for this reason and she's barred from my social media also because of it. She speaks and interacts with people we have gone no contact with for personal reasons (mainly trauma related) and we've explained to her exactly why we don't share photos with her, because she doesn't respect boundaries so she's denied that privilege. I wish it were different but don't want people to have access to my kids who don't deserve it.

It’s very normal, but it’s up to you what gets shared. My husband and I have a strict rule, there are no pictures of our kids on social media other than Snapchat.

Different grandparents have different rules because of capabilities. My mom is almost 80. My husbands mom is early 60’s. Big gap in ability in age, big gap in physical and cognitive abilities. So there’s different rules for my mom than for my MIL. My mom does not understand tech and she’s not safe with it.

If people are physically showing a picture on a phone thats different and perfectly fine with me.

I don't see an issue tbf

We don't put our LGs face online and every single family member are aware, family members send pictures to other of family members and unless they're known to us, just get shown pictures and not sent via WhatsApp

My dad's sent his mates pics of his granddaughter but I know them, some of them are old friends dads, my MIL shows pictures to her friends, never sends them which is fine, however I now know all her friends but she's like they don't need the pics, she's not part of their family, I'll show when I see them

But I get your concern, just be firmer with your boundaries xx

BTW I've edited this to sound English not jibberish!! Bloody predictive text 🤣🙈

After reading all your messages, I must admit I haven't set clear boundaries. Our communication is very brief and almost always through voice messages or WhatsApp. I express my discomfort to my husband, but even though he semi-mentions it (I've heard him), she continues to send them to her friends. Sharing it with family isn't so bad, even though I don't know them. It's the friends that bother me because, in the end, I don't know where the photos of my little girl might end up. The forwards that can happen.

She is 81 years old, my husband is her only child, and I feel a bit bad about setting boundaries because she might feel excluded or attacked... but if I am kind but clear, she might understand. What I don't want is to create unnecessary conflict.

Thank you for sharing your opinions. It gives me peace of mind to know that I'm not entirely exaggerating. Have a great day!