Sharing info about donor

I feel you. I’m quite lucky in that my circle is small and my close family are supportive. I’m 17 weeks right now. And you’re right, many people would find it easier to process a one night stand than a donor - which is mad, really - isn’t it? Were it a lesbian couple 🏳️‍🌈 I don’t think they’d have the same negative reaction that can come along with single, straight woman 🇬🇧🇪🇺. I’ve had people, especially women, my own age or younger not understanding it. I’ve had some women with kids say, ‘Why don’t you stay as you are, your life is so good.’ Ironically, for me, older women who have gone through divorce and life are more sympathetic but there are always the conventionalists, aren’t there? I am going to avoid using the words, ‘sperm donor’ and rather use the phrase 'single mother by choice.' Let them figure it out. I think if people pry too much, I'll shut down the conversation as politely as possible. People are still getting use to ths idea of SMBC -you are not alone. ☺️🙌🏻

Ya this seems to raise so much judgement from the wider circle so also considering where to be open about it or not irl

I decided early on that I was going to be very open about using a donor because I don't want my child to think there's anything shameful about his conception. I've received a lot of questions because people are going to be curious about something that they have not encountered personally before, but so long as the questions are respectful, I don't see a problem having a conversation about it. Something I thought was important was to view the thoughts and opinions of actual donor conceived people and taking that into account with how I shared information and how I'm raising my son, and the donor conceived community speaks very strongly about the need to be open about conception - I'm trying to do my part to destigmatize as much as possible